JOb, I haven't heard yet. I'm basically won't let the phone leave my hand. I had a dream last night that I got the job, I hope it was a prophetic dream.
Juju, I really do think he sees us meeting kids in the future and sees a future. I realize he might be waiting for me to pull the trigger on the convo. Which will happen. It makes me nervous, I won't lie. Having an R with kids involved is so much different than just the 2 of us. I think it will be good, but I know things really will change.
Two people without kids meet, date for a few years, get married, have kids together. two single parents meet, date for a few months, then have 2 kids together, lol. And now ones they share. It sure is an interesting element to it all.
So, it's Wednesday. I am hoping to hear something today. I definitely will this week. The suspense is killing me.
I spent over 4 hours at the salon yesterday and I began my journey to blonde. My color looks amazing and so does my cut, I am sooooo happy with it. D11 knew where I was and what I was doing. I get a text from exH.... "so, can I see it?" I said "my blondeness?" he was like yeah, D11 told me. So I sent him a pic. in pics it doesn't look quite as light as it is, which I told him. He told me it looks nice. A little weird I though, but whatever. His wife keeps doing weird things to her hair. I think she spends a lot of money, but it always looks bad. I hate to say it. I almost want to tell her she should visit my stylist.
I then sent a pic to M, but again, you couldn't really see the true blonde. He said "I am sure I will love it, and even if you dyed your hair rainbow, I would still be down" with a kissy face. He's so stinkin' sweet. He really truly likes me for me. I don't think I am exceptionally attractive, I'm average in a non average way, but I know my ex was always very physically attracted to me and the guys I dated were, but they didn't value me as much otherwise. I honestly think I have more value than inside rather than outside. M is attracted to me, will tell me I am gorgeous, but will always place emphasis on who I am on the inside. I love him for that.
Honestly though, I have been really down about my physical appearance. I am almost 20lbs heavier than my average weight of the last 12-13 years of my life. Getting my hair done helped me a little bit. I am working on eating healthier, cooking more, and attending the gym more. I almost cried in my crossfit class the other day, because my body is not capable of what it used to be. I was always so strong. I was running, and my cardiovascular endurance was so much better. I want to get back there. But my schedule isn't making it easy. But I am doing the best I can.
I am very sympathetic to what your feeling. I want to work out. I want to have hobbies. But with a little one and my jobs its really difficult. Possible, yes. But exercise requires a consistency that is easier to establish with a set routine. Set routines are tougher i think with our types of work.
When i started dating, i kind of had this feeling that it was gonna be like when i was much younger. I actually had my cousin do my makeup for me (shes a professional). I rarely wear makeup! And i had this thought that i had to be super thin. But that was a pretty immature way of thinking about it. I know i dont expect guys at our age to look like they go to the gym every day. I actually avoid those types of guys. I found that men our age are usually happy to find someone semi normal.
Im gonna take this advice too... try to fit in a little something each day, even if its just 15 minutes of stretching or mat exercises. A little bit is better then nothing and it prepares you for establishing a routine. Im someone that was used to running cross country and then working out for hours in the gym. So it s easy to get into that "its all or nothing" pattern. But something even if its just 10 min is better then nothing.
In some ways, Ginger, I think we are very similar but in some ways I think we are completely different. The obvious differences to me are that I'm a good bit older, I don't have young children (in fact, I suppose it could be argued that I'm not even a "real" mom since I didn't give birth to the 3 girls whom I call daughter, but that is a whole other post), and where you are fit and likely fairly thin, I have made no secret that I'm not at all thin. I point all of that out to say that I agree with what juju said in her first paragraph above. At our age, I think more men prefer someone who is stable, normal, has a job...those sorts of things. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying men (and women) don't like pretty, shiny things, but I think personality and other things begin to take the lead more as we age than looks. Sure, looks can catch your attention initially, but there has to be substance behind said looks to keep someone's attention.
Having said all that, though, G....you have actually inspired me. I signed up for a water aerobics class on campus and a friend signed up with me so we can go together and kind of keep each other accountable for attendance and participation. It is only 2 nights a week, so once I get into that groove beginning next week, I'll probably find something else to fit in a few other days each week so that I have something going on in that realm most of the week. I just figure that I'm getting married this year, will turn 50 next year (2020), so if there is ever a good time to take control of my weight and hopefully, overall health, now is a great time to do it. Besides, if we are moving into a house with a pool, we will want to have people over for pool parties a lot and I want to look decent when we do that.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
I am very sympathetic to what your feeling. I want to work out. I want to have hobbies. But with a little one and my jobs its really difficult. Possible, yes. But exercise requires a consistency that is easier to establish with a set routine. Set routines are tougher i think with our types of work.
When i started dating, i kind of had this feeling that it was gonna be like when i was much younger. I actually had my cousin do my makeup for me (shes a professional). I rarely wear makeup! And i had this thought that i had to be super thin. But that was a pretty immature way of thinking about it. I know i dont expect guys at our age to look like they go to the gym every day. I actually avoid those types of guys. I found that men our age are usually happy to find someone semi normal.
Im gonna take this advice too... try to fit in a little something each day, even if its just 15 minutes of stretching or mat exercises. A little bit is better then nothing and it prepares you for establishing a routine. Im someone that was used to running cross country and then working out for hours in the gym. So it s easy to get into that "its all or nothing" pattern. But something even if its just 10 min is better then nothing.
It is super hard when you working full time and part time, raising a kis pretty much on your own to really be able to commit to yourself that way. I now have the added benefit of D11 staying home alone when I go..... however, that comes with a "Mommy, please don't go" Makes me feel awful. It's only an hour and right around the corner.....
I grew up thinking guys only liked the really skinny chicks. Turns out it's not true and guys like women of all shapes and sizes and none of them are perfect themselves. You don't see every guy walking around with a 6 pack. Only a small percentage. I realize as I get older, it's more about my health, both mental and physical.
And great advice! I actually did make a commitment to myself to get up everyday and do 100 crunches and a one minute plank. It's like 7 minutes of exercise, but it is SOMETHING. I take the stairs all the time at work, and get up every half hour. I've got to use it or I'll lose it!
The money hasn't been worked out yet and I will know maybe by the end of the day, if not in a few. I will be happy for a lateral move, I hope it isn't less, and if it is, it isn't by much.
Congratulations! That is awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So happy for you.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
The money hasn't been worked out yet and I will know maybe by the end of the day, if not in a few. I will be happy for a lateral move, I hope it isn't less, and if it is, it isn't by much.
I am so so so happy!!
Boo yeah!
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
As for your weight - listen sweetie. I'm 62 and would KILL to have the body I was dissatisfied with in my 30's - or my 40's - or my 50's! Enjoy what you have. I'm sure you're lovely. Own it.
