Advice for no contact

[ovrrnbw]

So if she's making and taking provocative videos and pics with me,does divorce sound like something she's serious about?

It doesn't really mean anything. These situations are very complicated. I'd say if you're here, your situation is serious.

How are things going?

[ScottG31]

I've been dbing like crazy. No arguments or R talk for a week. We're having sex daily and she suggested a getaway trip 2 months from now. She at times says I trigger her emotions so I just redirect and avoid R talk

[ScottG31]

I've been dbing like crazy. No arguments or R talk for a week. We're having sex daily and she suggested a getaway trip 2 months from now. She at times says I trigger her emotions so I just redirect and avoid R talk

[ovrrnbw]

Well if she says you trigger her emotions, that is a golden opportunity to connect with her by validating her feelings.

W: "When you said let's clean up it reminded me of the old, controlling Scott"
Scott: "I get that." OR "I can see how that would make you feel that way"

Glad to hear you're getting laid! Make sure to take care of her emotionally and in the bedroom.

[ScottG31]

Validating I suck at. I usually just say ok orr remain silent lent when she goes on a tangent. Thanks for the awesome advice. I will use it tonight

[ovrrnbw]

Haha you are such a typical man!

Be an extraordinary man, maybe even drink a Dos Equis now and again.

[ScottG31]

If I'm drinking Mexican beer its Victoria. However I will be nothing but validating tonight.

[Ready2Change]

Validating I suck at. I usually just say ok orr remain silent lent when she goes on a tangent. Thanks for the awesome advice. I will use it tonight

read this:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...ain=47467&Number=2057224#Post2057224

[ScottG31]

I feel so damn stupid. I got sucked into R talk and ended up crying pleading. I'm so disgusted with myself. At the end of conversation she said she wants to go on a date with me this weekend, but I know it's not authentic. This DB stuff is so hard. I could easily go pick up other women if I wanted to but its against my moral compass as a married man. Resentment and anger are taking over me right now.

[Joe2017]

Well, you screwed up. So what? Everyone screws up sometimes. Pick yourself up. Move forward. You know you messed up. Own it and learn from it.

But you can never plead again. Ever.

Also, this weekend? You should have zero expectations about it. None. Not good. Not bad. Not neutral. Just NO expectations.