[quote=Twofeet] I am still picking up heavy things 3 days a week, and while my gains are still going up my weight has plateaued at 173lbs so I need to slightly increase my calories. Target is a lean 185lbs. Right after BD in Sept the divorce diet caused me to drop to 157lbs Last time I was that light was early college way before MR.
How tall are you?
5' 10" I made a run for 200 lbs about 2.5 years ago. I got up 195 -196lbs, but then got a work related injury followed by an illness and preceded to lose all that hard earned muscle. My frame can easily carry 185 lbs and it's not a lot of maintenance to keep that muscle and stay lean. My issue now is I am trying to lean gain and that is a slow process.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
Not sure if I should post here or start a new thread in Surviving the Big D forum. One of the yoga instructors at the place I go to seems to be showing a high level of interest in me. Basically, she flirts with me before and after class. Should I see if she wants to grab a coffee? She is attractive, but older than me and I am not interested in dating or any R at this time. H3ll, Monday I couldn't stop crying in the shower....that hasn't happened in a while. Still going through my own grieving process although there are less lows now. I don't have a problem meeting and befriending women through my work/industry, but that is all very cohesive. Yoga lady pushes me out of my comfort zone. I wouldn't mind a friendship and down the road who knows, but I am not sure what to do. Any advice? Again if this is not appropriate place to post please let me know.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
You can post on here is long as you like or you can move it over to the surviving D forum.
I still have a hard time believing how fast your sitch went from start to finish. (BTW I think that's a good thing)
There is nothing wrong with getting out of your comfort zone. You definitely are not ready to date.
I had my last breakdown two years ago while my ex was away with the kids. The house felt so empty. Now, I love having the house to myself some days lol. Funny how things change.
2 ways to look at it. BD to the judges rubber stamp was 4 months. BD to ExW moving out and everything being split up... Probably the real start of D in ExW eyes.... was 2 months. If you knew my ExW irl and how impulsive she can be after the initial shock it's not that big of a suprise.
When I am ready to date I will be hitting up my industry friend. I was out for drinks at a function this weekend and she happened to be there. From what it sounds like she has quite a few high quality women lined up who would want to date me once I am ready. Kind of makes my head spin. Its exciting to think about, but I also understand I am not ready.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
It's still the best way. So much damage is usually done in the limbo periods because the LBS become so panic and pursue which comes off as weak and more damage is done.
My guess is by next Christmas your ex is going to say what the fuch did I do. Will it be too late?
BD to the judges rubber stamp was 4 months. BD to ExW moving out and everything being split up... Probably the real start of D in ExW eyes.... was 2 months.
Twofeet... IMO...you are definitely not ready to date. I think it is important to go through the grieving process fully before going down that road. It is tempting, for sure, because attention from someone else does help ease the pain of rejection by our WAS’s but I don’t think it is fair to the other person who is looking for a relationship. I think you will instinctively know when you are ready but until then, focusing on you and GAL should be a priority. (((HUGS)))
