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ST if this is the case it may be time to find a new job.


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I agree, but this is the worst time possible for me to be moving jobs. Fortunately I still get my bonus so I will be able to execute my financial plan so I can move out.

Once I get the settlement I deserve from WW I am going to look into starting a small business or investing in one of my good friends existing business so that I can be my own boss.


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Originally Posted by SoTorn
I was essentially told that since this woman complained, they have to discipline me no matter what. But since they cant prove what she said is true, beyond her and whomever she coached to lie with her about this claining its true, that I am being demoted and that this will remain on my permanent record. AKA, I will never get promoted again because I was simply accused of not having any morals and outright being hyper vulgar and obscene.


WOW. This world has become so backwards and upside down that I hardly recognize it compared to when I was a kid. Whatever happened to innocent until PROVEN guilty? Unbelievable. So someone can just make baseless accusations because they are mad or jealous or having a bad day or worried about their job and ruin someone else's life with zero ramifications. Welcome to crazy town! Good luck ST, very sorry this happened but at least you didn't completely lose your job and so it gives you some options and time.


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Yeah at least I have a job. I agree, its outrageous that anyone can make up anything and its taken as fact because of the current "feelings" of today.

I plan on finding another job or starting a business. No point in me dedicating anymore of my life to this place. 17 years of busting my ass up in smoke because of someones lies.


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Oh man, it’s hard to read what you wrote about your job ST. I’m really sorry about that. Try to stay calm and get your focus on the road you have chosen.

Just like AS said, use the time you have to get the most you can in your favor.

Keep being there, shining for your kids.
Stay strong there man!


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Thanks Neffer. Im having a very hard time staying positive with everything going on. At least the woman I met is extremely kind and so far very supportive.


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ST, I would absolutely slap her with a defamation suit. Make her expend resources to "defend" herself. Some people should pay for their actions. No accountability on her end if she can spew nonsense that negatively effects other people with no ramifications whatsoever.


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Oh I have already set up several consultations with attorneys. Im not letting this slide.


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So I am back at work. I ended up getting demoted and losing pay. Not much pay thank god. Still very unhappy about all of this.

I told WW that her settlement offer was not fair. So WW went on a tirade because she feels that since she makes more money and went to college that she deserves to not have to pay. Spent a good amount of time defending myself and explaining that we can go to court if she wants because ill get more if we do.

WW started threstening to manipulate the custody of the kids if i didnt just take what she offered. I told her that im not going to be bullied into taking an unfair settlement.

She seems to have calmed down and seems to have agreed but we will see. We will see what happens. I told her that I am moving out when I get the papers and agree. I asked my mom if I can stay at her house for about a month so I can save money and wait for the settlement to come in along with some other things that I have planned to pay off debt etc.

I think I can see a little light at the end of the tunnel. I sure hope she just agrees.


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The sitch at work s@cks man...

Keep detached and moving forward. Do the kids know about you moving out? What do they say?


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