channel your anger into positive things, workout is surely one of them. Do not bottle the anger, as it might, and will go off at the most inconvenient time.
Your feelings about missing your W are also normal, as you are slowly transitioning out of the shock stage and into the stage where you will feel the whole magnitude of your situation.
You are handling things admirably and you sure are keeping yourself a whole hell of a lot better then I was, when I was at your time stamp.
Feelings change, you will grow stronger and you will THRIVE.
Things have been good today, got some dental stuff done, still a long ways to go there. Had a cracked tooth followed by a failed implant. Getting ready to redo the implant again. It’s a front tooth and it’s quite annoying to look at that gal in the mirror all the time.
Getting a tire fixed on my truck that has a slow leak, and spent some time going over the initial hearing docs and plan. Proposing a 50/50 plan to the court. Hopeful we will get that to go through. Got the last item I was waiting for as proof against the speculative lies she presented. Case is coming together I think. Docs required to be filed by Thursday for the Friday hearing.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
Well the hearing got moved to Monday. The amounts of proof against the allegations was too much for a normal docket, so we have a special set with the judge on Monday morning so that he has adequate time to review all the facts. I appreciate the efforts on behalf of the court and the judge to make sure he gets it straight.
Talked with my pastor yesterday about what’s going on and he provided some good things to look at and we read some passages together. I am slowly telling a few close people hthat age going on and it’s amazing how they are leaping at the opportunity to help me out. Very thankful for them.
Spending The Weekend with my family, nice to have a bed to sleep in and a good meal.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
Court is tomorrow. Definitely has me anxious. So much riding on the opinion of someone that has never met me. W is still rewriting history and twisting facts in her response to my declaration. Making things up that weren’t done or said to try and convince the court I shouldn’t be able to see my kids and am an unfit parent.
Because she is so nice, she took all of ‘my favorite’ things and put them in storage for me, necessitating that she buy all new furniture and bedroom stuff. How thoughtful. She says this is why she needs so much maintenance; she ‘had’ to buy all this expensive furniture so that I could have my favorite things for me. She is so nice!
She is really working hard to hold the lies together. She is now having to embellish them with extra details after I proved most of them to be untrue. Now instead of ‘ being really freaked out’ at me for sitting in our bedroom talking to her, she was that way because I blocked her in the room by standing in the doorway and forcing her to have a conversation. Argh! I would never do such a thing. She is trying so hard to prove that I am this abusive guy she has painted a picture of. Next she will say that I physically hurt her and she was too scared of me to go to the police. So dang frustrating. Just leave, let me see the kids 50/50, split up our stuff, and then enjoy your new freedom.
I know worrying is worthless, but I am so worried that she will keep playing the woe is me card and the judge will just eat it right up. Losing my kids to her lies is inconceivable.
Last edited by LB55; 02/03/1910:15 PM.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
I am sure the judge has seen this more times than he can count.
Be ready for more "specialist" to be involved. Embrace them. Make sure that you request equal observati0ons of your W.
Something like this:
H:"I will do what ever is in the best interests of my kids. If the courts believe this specialist is needed, they are more than welcome to observe me as parent. I would also like them to observe W so they can make a full assessment"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Just remember NOT to lose your temper at ANY point. She will try to portray herself as a victim and try to gain sympathies from the judge. You know of course she is being fake AF, bu you cannot go and tear her up in front of the judge. As a military man I know you are aware (and required) to be groomed and dressed to a T. Make the best possible impression on the judge, be calm, collected and rational.
Best of luck today, and let as know how it all goes.
