typical WW on my hands

[LH19]

S,

What makes you think you are going to get out of alimony/child support by going this route? I am sure the site calculates like attorneys would calculate it.

[Twofeet]

Its probably just a kit to file pro se, but if you really want to go that route you don't need a kit to file pro se. There are people who DIY their divorce. However, if you are trying to get out of alimony or CS couldn't she just hire a L down the road and come after you? Also some judges may not rubber stamp your D if it doesn't look right esp with kids involved. I don't know, and I am guessing you probably don't either. That's why a consult with a L is a good idea.

[svdad]

I am not looking to get out of CS by any means. But if she (currently) is not looking to take half of my 401k and doesnt even know about alimony/maintenance then so be it. This might be an (easier) route to make that happen and keep her happy as well?

I obviously want what is best for my kids and will be providing CS for when they are with her 50 percent of the time, but the numbers I got from one of my L consults was like 3k a month. That seem excessive to me. We don't spend anywhere near that much on the kids per month at this point in their lives.

Is this a fairly common number when one person makes 3x more than the other spouse?

[LH19]

SV,

Yes it's all a calculation. You have to put a roof over their head and she has to have a vehicle to drive, plus food, clothes etc.

The kicker is that doesn't even include sports, braces, medical bills which you will most likely pay the majority of in the future.

Your best bet is to sit down with her and try to explain to her that you can't afford to give her $3k a month. That is your best bet.

[job]

Please start a new thread and link both threads to each other. You've reached the 100 posting/reply limit for this one. Thanks!

[Ready2Change]

Anyone else care to give me their opinion on how to respond or if I should possibly look into this divorce 'kit' as I might be able to get out of paying a significant amount of $$ per month if we go this route?thanks

H:"W, thanks for the link. Looks like a possible option. I plan on doing some more research on other options as well. I want to make sure we do the right thing for our kids. regards H"

[svdad]

Thank you Ready2Change

[svdad]

Part II thread located here: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2838364#Post2838364