So tomorrow is a very very big day and I am pretty nervous. It's the most anxiety inducing moment in single parenting dating. Introducing kids. Last night he was telling me he looked forward to meeting D11 and to be meeting his son. I said I was as well and I know it's a very big deal as he has never done this before. He said it is a big deal and he wouldn't do it if he wasn't absolutely sure of it and that I am a pretty amazing woman. I really think he likes me! Today he also invited us back to the house after the party. That's a big deal. Of course I accepted. He said he told him today that he is meeting Daddy's friend and his daughter. He said he didn't want to confuse him so that's why he was calling me his friend. I said of course that's how he should be introducing me.
This is a real actual R we have going on here. I think with a future. I have never had a real R like this.
But I have to say the most pivotal scary anxiety ridden part of single parent dating is introducing the kids. Big Time. Your R hinges on how well that goes. You are introducing the most important little people in your life to the one you love.
I'm confused - he's introducing you to his son as just a "friend"? That might work if your daughter wasn't there, but Kidd being kids, she's sure to tell his son you're dating.
I'm confused - he's introducing you to his son as just a "friend"? That might work if your daughter wasn't there, but Kidd being kids, she's sure to tell his son you're dating.
He's barely 5 and a boy, I don't think he even understands what dating is. He understands friends though. Even D 11 asked how he was going to introduce me because she understands he may not get it. She's a snobby pain in the butt preteen lately, but she actually understands this stuff. I am sure if he asks questions though, he will answer honestly.
Bracing myself for the big day today. Of course I am working on some really bad sleep thanks to my dog.
Take a deep breath! Don't over think everything. Everything will work out just fine. Your daughter will be there and she will be your biggest supporter. Any questions come up from the kids, answer them as honestly as you can. Little man may not have any questions today, but I'm sure he will have some for his father later one.
Enjoy the day!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You'll be fine G. Just remember that 5 year olds have the attention span of a house-fly and unless a big deal is made of things he'll probably be more interested in your dog than the fact that his dad has a new friend.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Thank you guys! I know he is going to be so busy playing and jumping with his little friends, it isn't going to dawn on him. Maybe when we come back to the house.
Of course, I get nervous about D11 too. This is just a big a deal for us as it them. I think she will like him. I know he will like her. As long as she doesn't pull this new attitude she has adopted as of late. But she seems pretty excited. I feel for her, because she doesn't know anyone except me at this party and she is shy until she is not. I promised I would jump with her and hang out with her.
For those who might be wondering how the kid meet/friends and family meet went.....
Pretty great! D11 at first was worried the place the party was at would be too young for her. Well, she had a freakin ball and so did mommy playing. All of that went well, Every now and then when we would be together he even made an affectionate gesture like rubbing my back or massaging my shoulders.
We went back to the house with and he had ordered a bunch of food. His cousins and their kids came by , his bro, his best friend and his kids..... It was pretty funny because he was so busy he never introduced me to his very close cousin or friend. But we both knew who eachother were. He called me in the kitchen and said " my cousin is mad because I forgot to introduce you guys, I am so sorry" his cousin and I hit it off pretty good and we all talked for a while. Then his best friend introduced himself and we talked for a while. D 11 managed to spend some time with the kids, but she is a hang with adults person and she hung with us for a while. His mom really likes D11 and I got lots of compliments on how well-behaved she is. The really cool part came in the last hour or so when it was me, D11, him, his son, mom and bro and he was opening presents. It was our first time without a bunch of distractions. He had this life sized spiderman balloon that was actually shaped like spiderman and we were all playing with it, but his son and I had a special game going we would tell eachother "look over there" and throw the balloon on eachothers head. His son is seriously adorable.
M even kissed me goodbye where the kids were in the room. One of the reasons why the kid introducing is such a big deal is not only because you aren't sure if you will get along with the kids, but...… seeing the other person interact with their own kids. And oh my. I love him. Overall I think it went great, and I know it was huge for me to meet his child and so many others in his life. I feel so happy, so content, and in so much in love.
I've sent it to you outside of here G as a GIF - giant big bear hug. You probably recall it.
You and D11 did good.
All will be fine.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Sounds really good G. Hopefully this helps put your mind at ease. I know I would never introduce my girls to anyone unless I thought there was a future.
