Lost8. Since you're on the wedding ring and engagement ring subject. If things go that far south ultimately leading down the road to divorce and there is no chance of reconciling. Do you think it's wrong to ask for the engagement ring back? I know that kind of sounds like Indian giving, what I mean if a walk away spouse it's going to take off the Rings and not wear them as a token of their wedding vows, and they are heading down that divorce Road anyway why not ask for it back?
By law it is her's to keep. Is it really worth that battle. The resale is pennies on the dollar anyway as I told you. We had a ring appraised for 17K and paid about 16K and ultimately was worth 1700 when she sold it. Not worth the battle IMHO.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
I sold my 600 band for $70...not great but bought me some drinks and was happy to get rid of it. If things work out we'll get a new one and for the right reasons
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
I was looking through Ws phone a agreed upon but also I am making a point not to do constantly.
Found a response to an email she sent yesterday from an email 2/25. It basically said this wasn't a game and let her know where he was at 1550 days from now. This references when his daughter turns 18 and when he would leave his marriage or make a move or whatever ( I gathered this info from the past that he wasn't leaving his W because of his D)....and that she wasn't a hotel chick.
I asked her about it...no hostility...no anger and why she didn't let me know like she had about the call the night before. She said she was tired of him calling from other numbers which she hasn't been answering but recognizes.
Her email reply did not address any of that, did not ask him to stop contacting or what her intentions where with me.
That is why I saw the issue with her stating NC to him without me present because her reason for NC should be to work on her M? That what they are doing is wrong? Is this just a normal waywards struggle?
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
IMHO itīs time for W to have the NC message delivered...
You give her time and space. You need that too. But she must keep N/C. itīs the first step for your MR. If not, you get into the plan B cake eating section (where we donīt know whoīs plan A or plan B...there should only be one: YOU, period). Sending N/C message comes natural after the last contact you described.
No anger, no fear.
WW H(me): 53 W: 48 T: 27 M: 22 S: 18 Piecing since 03/2016 Saw the light in the storm
Thats what I was thinking neffer and why I felt it important I was there for it. There is a difference between "don't contact me because you can't give me what I want right now" and "this is wrong I am married and want to work things out, DNC"
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
