Did, my point is that you are believing too much of what she says. And even too much of what she does. Is the sex and ILYs and the "positive things" the real thing. Or is it the ups and downs? The pulling away? The asking for patience (IE distance)?
Your approach isn't bad (slow and steady wins the race), the problem is all of the expectations you are attaching to everything she says and does. You are feeling down because you rise and fall with every one of her words and actions. Detach from her words and actions. In other words: You are AWESOME and it doesn't matter what she says, good or bad. Or what she does positive or negative. You are AWESOME through all of it. That's what the picnic analogy is. You are there picnicking and she can come join you or stay away. She can come and leave right away. Or come late. Or whatever. It doesn't matter because no matter what YOU are going to sit there and enjoy the picnic. Period.
Your picnic is like this:
"Should I start eating or wait for her? Is she coming? Is that her? No that was a tree limb blowing in the breeze. Maybe she will come from the other direction. No I don't see her over there either. Okay I guess I will eat this sandwich. Boy this sandwich would taste so much better if she was sitting on this blanket next to me. Is that her? Nope, Bummer. I guess I will have to eat these cupcakes without her. Shucks, I brought 2, one for each of us."
Your picnic is centered around her........not you.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
