WAW says I'm the "perfect husband and partner"

[Jamine]

Just wanted to post an update.

W texted me yesterday twice, one I didn't respond to. The next just asked how I was doing. I answered very plainly, and she said "good, just checking in :)".

I'm feeling better about myself...most of the time. Nights are the hardest and when I miss her most. I'm considering taking off my wedding ring, getting used to not wearing it before I go back home next week. I know W is not wearing hers, and I think she'd be surprised to see me not wearing mine.

[AnotherStander]

I'm considering taking off my wedding ring, getting used to not wearing it before I go back home next week. I know W is not wearing hers, and I think she'd be surprised to see me not wearing mine.

Do things because they are what YOU want, don't do them to elicit a reaction from her.

[Jamine]

Do things because they are what YOU want, don't do them to elicit a reaction from her.

Yup, good advice. I need to turn this into my mantra.

[Jamine]

I had a great weekend. Went to a music festival and got to see many amazing shows. Great times with friends and family, and I really GALed it up. There were even times I wasn't thinking about my marriage!

I didn't wear my wedding ring all weekend, and I'm still not. It feels weird, but I'm just trying it out. W went to a concert out of town that we were supposed to go to together, and I have no idea who she brought. Probably just a girlfriend, but I can't get it out of my head.

I go back home on Thursday. 15 lbs lighter, stronger, and definitely tougher, but I can't help but be nervous about seeing W.

[SteveLW]

Jamine, why did you take your ring off?

[Jamine]

I took it off because I wanted to feel what it was like. Kind of ritualistic, letting go...but I don't think it's right yet. It feels like a piece of me is missing.

[IHCLACS]

Yeah I've felt naked without it for 3 months. I've put it back on for a few days here and there, but decided to leave it off.

[Jamine]

Quick update here. Minimal contact with W since I've last posted, all initiated by her. She left town this past weekend for a show we were supposed to go to together. I ended up at a music festival seeing way more of our favorite bands - definitely GAL.

W put a hotel on my credit card and transferred me the money, she texted me to tell me about it...I have no idea why she wouldn't just put it on her own card. I'm assuming she went w/ a girlfriend, and this was potentially some kind of test? I don't want to read into it, but i'm pretty sure this was intentional. She never uses my card for anything (only got her one for the perks), and has her own credit cards.

So I fly back home in 2 days. Still nervous, but feeling like a much more confident me. I'm really curious if anyone has advice about how to deal with physical contact. I know that I shouldn't initiate at all, but if she initiates physical contact - i.e. holding hands or more, how do I handle this? I've been reading here that I shouldn't embrace too much if we hug, and treat that as if it were an acquaintance, which I can handle. I'm sure if she stays at the house that we'll end up having at least a small amount of time together, watching a show or movie. Is this okay, and is more casual physical contact okay or even good, i.e. resting hands, arms on each other, or should I be keeping my distance - sitting farther apart or on a different couch? I really want to be prepared so that I can do this naturally when we're together.

[SteveLW]

Maybe her CC is maxed out?

[Jamine]

Maybe her CC is maxed out?

I don't believe this is possible, and if it is, I've got much bigger problems.