Miler, yes work on connecting. Id go full blast in three areas:
1) at least one talk charge while you're a part per day. More if you think of things. I'm on record in my own reconciliation that I feel nothing worked better than talk charges. I started in our sitch doing one per day. Then I did one in the morning and one in the afternoon. Eventually she started doing then too! Women want to discuss things. Anything!
2) Touch charges. Like crazy. My favorite was after I got rest for work I'd hop back in bed for the last 10-15 minutes that she was still in bed, and pull her over to me, and have her lay with her leg over my legs and head on my chest. But also the soft touches walking by, rubbing her knee, caressing her neck. Touch as often as you can.
3) Date night. One a week. Just you and her. Dress up. Prepare just like you did when you were dating her. Even bring her flowers that night.
Your sitch is in a different place than these others. You need to read her cues and go into a little more of a pursuit mode.
Miler, you got this man! You're in good shape. (Remain healthily differentiated though. All marriage require this.)
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
