Great post thank you. I swear my H is the poster child for MLC. Even down to OW is his "soul mate". I wonder how many other men say that and if they come back eventually. I'm getting to the point now that I'm not sure I want him back. I've done a lot of soul searching and evaluating my 20 year relationship. Not sure it's worth it! Only time will tell.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
I know crazy!! My H went to his high school reunion and came back with a girlfriend. Who too was married! Their relationships is long distance. 3 hours.
This is his 2nd time. He left 7 years ago. This time he is overly angry!
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Funny about the ldr my h ow who is his must have journey, is 2.5 hours away with rough traffic. He didn't have time for me living within 10min. crazy stuff. He looked last October for options.
Oh hs25 might be home and living of dad again! Nice romantic fun times. I'm fine with 2 new dogs and no added stress!
Time and patience.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
I really needed to see this tonight. I'm slowly seeing the crazeee for what it is...crazeeee. Strange how long it takes to see the pain and insanity driving MLC. I guess our own hurt fogs our glasses. The ingredients were always there, I just didn't see them for what they were. It's so damnn sad, isn't it?
In some ways, I think I feel guilty for allowing this evil MLC to hurt my family. I'm not sure what I would have done differently though? Maybe I just wasn't up to the challenge. I was no match for this kind of evil. I couldn't separate my pain from his pain. I couldn't see things as clearly as is written in this post.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Yes, point where we are numb to the pain and can see them what clearer and decide we're just done with all the BS. I think as far as women go the odds of that's taking them back after so much has gone on for so long we just give up. I'm sure more men come back but do not succeed because we're too tired of it and realize well worth more and will have a better life. I can't say that I don't love my H but it's buried way down deep. This time if you ever wanted to come back he would have to go to alcohol rehab and they would have to have major counseling.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Wow. Haven't spent much time in ml forum but I am really glad I stumbled onto this thread. As many said that list is my h. 100%. Obviously doesn't change anything but I think it will help me to be more sympathetic going forward.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15
I'm just at the beginning of what may be my WWS's MLC and trying Michelle's steps. Although I appreciate the candor of this post, it has me now terrified of what may be to come... seeing my husband heading towards what may be a MLC, I just don't know I can endure all of that and keep my sanity intact.....
WWS 38 Me 45 Together 17 years Married 7 years No kids BD 13 Apr 2018 WWS Moved out for trial separation 09 June 18 Possible EA with co-worker MLC suspected
crazy stuff. He looked last October for options. 
