That should not be on your radar right now. Dating in my mind is a tool for looking for a long term partner. Married guys shouldn't date. Recently divorced guys shouldn't date. Get happy alone.
By all means, go out into the real world and interact with everyone. Practice new social skills. . Practice flirting with women. Maintain your personal boundaries.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
That should not be on your radar right now. Dating in my mind is a tool for looking for a long term partner. Married guys shouldn't date. Recently divorced guys shouldn't date. Get happy alone.
By all means, go out into the real world and interact with everyone. Practice new social skills. . Practice flirting with women. Maintain your personal boundaries.
R2C,
You are wise too my brother.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
Thank you everyone for your quick advice. I’m not going to lie but it is hard to do this. But I know it’s necessary for me to detach and let her know I am not plan “b”. She actually called me 2 more times and I didn’t answer. The 2nd time she left a message that she had to talk to me about the kids. Obviously, she knew I would call her back then. It first started off with the kids and then went into why I didn’t respond to her texts or calls, I said I am working. She said this reminded her of the past when I would get mad and not answer. She said she started to have a panic attack thinking what she could have done. That she thinks that she should talk to a therapist because she wouldn’t feel that way and that she has a lot of damage. I said I think going to a therapist for you is a great idea. She went on to tell me that she has a hard time sleeping. I just said, “still?” Then she went on to say how she can’t believe how we ended up here and if I was mad at her? I said no. She asked again if I was sure that I wasn’t mad at her. I said no then I said I have to go I’m at work. And said good bye.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
Why do you post on the board when you ignore all the advice from veterans who have seen this play out 100s if not 1,000s of times?
She is obviously doing something she is not supposed to be doing (most likely an affair) so when you don’t answer she fears you have found her out.
As far as a therapist I wouldn’t encourage it. The therapist will just validate that she’s not happy and agree with her that a divorce will make her happy. Then she’ll say even my therapist says we should divorce.
Are you familiar with Einstein’s definition of Insanity?
I am familiar of Einstein’s definition of insanity. I only called because she left a message that she wanted to speak because of the kids. What else did I do wrong? Man I stink at this. Am I just suppose to keep ignoring her?
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
