Thanks guys. I’m trying to validate. It’s harder than it sounds. She really hurt her ankle when she crashed on a jet ski a couple weeks ago. She was talking about the pain and how it still hits and is swollen
Her, look at this. Man it still hurts Me that looks painful. I’m sorry Her. (Touching it). Ouch do you see that? Me wow that really [censored]. It looks very painful
Is this right?
Guys do I really have a shot at this. Is it really possible that we will make it and right the ship?
She MIGHT be having an EA. If she is do I just leave it alone until I have proof and got my head on straight
This is a loaded question. But what are my chances?
Yes leave it alone for now. It doesn't change DBing.
Chances? No one knows. What I can tell you is that pursuit and pressure will lower it to closer to 0 percent. While DBing will move it away from 0 percent. But it is still up to her. And that is out of your control.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
And my level head from this morning is starting to feel a little shaky
Completely normal. I would vacillate between "I can't wait until she is gone and I can move on!" to "OH MY GOODNESS! I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT HER!" to everything in between.
It will get easier as time goes on.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
And my level head from this morning is starting to feel a little shaky
Completely normal. I would vacillate between "I can't wait until she is gone and I can move on!" to "OH MY GOODNESS! I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT HER!" to everything in between.
I am sorry but I don't see any victories. I see someone that has a very unhealthy attachment and a need for another person to simply by okay in life. This level of pathology in any relationship cannot sustain over time. Even if she comes around a bit, it will not last. Your M cannot survive until you learn how to take care of yourself and become a strong and independent person. No woman wants to be M to man that is so needy and insecure. You cannot fake this, trick her into staying, or win her back. You have to actually do the hard work of self discovery and growth. This benefits you, your son and ultimately gives you a better chance of having a healthy M. I am sorry if this hurts you, but is is the truth. You are looking for shortcuts, but there are no shortcuts!
Please stop trying to win her back or look for any success. That is not how this will work in your favor and it will not help you. You have got to step away, give her space, and start GAL and spending time with other people. Please. This is getting very pathetic. You cannot feel good about any of this and what you are creating here.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
