Can you uses this as a starting point for some dirty texting or making her feel good texting?
That's a great idea.. and my W and i do that sort of thing, too, and it's fun (playful flirtation like that, particularly one that draws on an already fun/exciting/good experience, definitely increases the intimacy level), but... is now the time for that? His W made a secret foray into the online realm, again, and has possibly been entertaining flirtations from another man. In DB-ing, that's typically a scenario for distance, not pursuit. If they are in full-blown piecing and everything is AOK, that type of pursuit would be perfect. I'm thinking that's a great idea. but one that maybe he needs to consider keeping in his back pocket until this current question is resolved.
Just my two cents...
Steve, do keep in touch, here. You have a lot of folks who care about you and your sitch chiming in here, and we'll all be pulling for you wanting to know how things are progressing and how you're doing.
Hang in there, man.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
Thanks R2C, I did a little of that earlier today. I think she really liked that I too the lead on that yesterday. It had admittedly been too long, for a variety of issues. And I think she'd likes it that I don't NGS the fact that it isn't every night like I did for years before.
Hoos, thanks. This forum is awesome. You made such a great point about our MC being in such a better place than a year and a half ago! I appreciate all this forum had done for me and for others. I'm in such a better place this time mentally, emotionally and intellectually.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Hope all goes well for you. Hate to see this thread come up. I've been a little bit of a ghost for a while but you and others helped stabilize me in a time of need and I'm still grateful for that.
May: discover PA April: MC pending IC, back in MBR, discover EA March: different bedrooms, IC Jan 19: ILYBINILWY
but... is now the time for that? His W made a secret foray into the online realm, again, and has possibly been entertaining flirtations from another man.
I believe it is. Steve should act like nothing is different. Steve doing things that keep his W's attention on him is the goal.
Steve,
Temptation is everywhere for all of us. Be catnip for your W. Be the guy feeding her addiction.
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Lots of advice, different takes . I would go with R2C , but gently. Any opportunities to build some mystery ? It may be harmless , but from a seed an oak grows, most of us here have been on the wrong side of not being in tune at one stage . Lots of people are relying on you to be a success to help them .
So tonight was our D's orientation at school. I stopped on the way home and picked up D at my mom's, then met W at D's school. I then left and W and D went to grocery store. I got home and had a little while to grab her tablet and do some intel.
There was another email from the guy saying he was getting on the game in a few minutes to play against her. With a couple of love.kiss smilies. No response from her. It was from Sunday night (I had my date's wrong and the other messages were from Saturday). I don''t think she got on the game that night, and there was no response from her. So I continue to get the impression that this is a pretty one-sided thing from his end, again probably based on her profile pic (which is amazing).
So no other intel to report. This tells me that unless they are in contact through other means that it is far from an everyday thing. Likely this guy will move on to more receptive prey.
Tryhard, thanks for the input. I agree with R2C, I need to try to remain even keel. And make sure I am firmly entrenched as Plan A! To do that I need to be the best Steve85 I can be!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
There was another email from the guy saying he was getting on the game in a few minutes to play against her. With a couple of love.kiss smilies. No response from her. It was from Sunday night (I had my date's wrong and the other messages were from Saturday). I don''t think she got on the game that night, and there was no response from her. So I continue to get the impression that this is a pretty one-sided thing from his end, again probably based on her profile pic (which is amazing).
Glad to hear it! This is good news, validating your hypothesis that she realized she let it go too far and then deleted the messages with plans to move on. May being the best Steve you can be, be fun for you both.
