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Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
Just read everything, I am sorry Steve. I might of missed it but what made you decide to confront? I thought you were going to gather more intel?


I think I explained in last thread. But knowing what I knew I started asking questions. The two key pieces of info were that his last email said " I'm getting on -game- in a little while when it's safe. I'll challenge you or play your challenge."

The game had canned messages "Good luck!". Stuff like that. But she told me that IF you both had added each other as friends then you can free type messages. I asked if anyone had ever given her contact info. "No. And if they did I didn't do anything with it." I then asked if she'f ever shared other contact info. "No!" Emphatically.

I couldn't take it, so I said "So you don't know someone by the name of -insert OM's name?" Her: "No. Why?" So there is no one on the game named -name-? Her: "No, not that I remember." Me: I think you have.

It escalated. Quickly. What I had put together was he was using email to coordinate off the game, and they were sexting in the game. Once I knew they could free message I knew I was right.

She eventually admitted it.


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Oh, and the key to figuring it all out was his use of the words "when it's safe". Creep.


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Bro, you can´t control her.

Control yourself. Be that alfa so as to get your respect back.

Give her that time. If she truly wants to commit she´ll be there. I know she will.

DB rules now in effect.

Keep your calm, be the light.

(((Steve)))


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Ah man, I am really sorry. I have no advice, you have had enough of that already. I think what I would struggle with the most is trusting in the future especially after all of the work you have done. For her to indicate how amazing you have been and for her to do this says a lot about her and what she is struggling through. Therapy maybe but it's going to be a long road. Sometimes it's more about them than you.

Sounds like she wants to be able to do this, give you the opportunity to do the same and you both be ok with it. Such a slippery slope. I wonder what she would do if your daughter was out of the house.

Anyway, I am really sorry.


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Steve,

Back when you were thinking about ending I always in the back of my mind thought she had slipped up because I was really shocked you were thinking of ending it.

I understand if you don’t want to talk about it.

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Originally Posted by Steve85
I have a huge GAL scheduled for tomorrow. Hitting an amusement park with a buddy. I'll be gone all day.



GAL is good. Whatever you can do to give her time and space to think about her actions is good. You want her to be able to understand why she was wrong. I know she apologized but she may have done that out of fear of losing you or she may be cycling.

Avoid conversations about this for a while. This is not the time for you to be thinking about whether you want to take her back or not. The only thing you need to do right now is give her time and space. When you have done that, give her more time and space smile

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Originally Posted by neffer
Bro, you can´t control her.

Control yourself. Be that alfa so as to get your respect back.

Give her that time. If she truly wants to commit she´ll be there. I know she will.

DB rules now in effect.

Keep your calm, be the light.

(((Steve)))


Thanks man. Great words of wisdom. I plan on following this.


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Originally Posted by LH19
Steve,

Back when you were thinking about ending I always in the back of my mind thought she had slipped up because I was really shocked you were thinking of ending it.

I understand if you don’t want to talk about it.


Oh yeah!! Last December I think? I went through a period where I felt like BDing her. I remember that. I really never understood why I was feeling that way. She was not behaving in any suspicious way at all. I almost wonder if it was just an emotional comedown from everything that has occurred and being so on for so long.


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Steve. Obviously I have no advice because I’m so new. I just wanted to say I’m sorry your dealing with this again. And to this particular newbie your an inspiration to work harder Best of luck man.

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Originally Posted by ozman
Steve. Obviously I have no advice because I’m so new. I just wanted to say I’m sorry your dealing with this again. And to this particular newbie your an inspiration to work harder Best of luck man.

Oz


Thanks Oz. Stay strong!!


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