Do you have Divorce Remedy? Read the Last Resort Technique. It goes into greater depth, mainly telling you what pursuit is because the LBS dreams up 1,000 ways of pursuit lol.
LRT is: 1. Stop pursuing. 2. GAL 3. Wait and see.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
She said "We should go with someone reasonable so they can sell the house quickly and make it painless. We have no chain so that's something."
I replied: "I hate the thought of some scummy family living in the nest [our word for the house]. Not looking after the garden or keeping the bathrooms up to scratch."
H:"W, When you have identified two that you like, get me their contact info and I will pick one."
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I haven't sent it everyone. I've deleted the draft! It felt nice to write it out though.
She is coming back from holiday today. She'll be alone in the house tonight again and also tomorrow. Then she's going away again Saturday to Monday with a work thing.
I had to go to the house yesterday to sort out the smoke alarms (they were going off at 11pm and I was 40 miles away at my parents' house!). Once I'd sorted it, didn't get home til 1.30am.
She is pushing me to chase estate agents.
She also texted me this morning saying the "divorce application has been approved, so you'll get something in the post soon." I haven't told her that they arrived yesterday evening.
The letter says "respond within 7 days" but I called and the customer service person said "it's 30 days really. Nothing happens if you don't respond within 7 days. Only if you wait longer than a month will you need to pay additional fees."
I'm not going to text if she gets home safely. I will only respond if she texts first. I'm doing this more now. I'm only texting first if I have to get into the house (only she can access the alarm remotely now, and I no longer have a smart phone).
Urgh - this is so hard! If I went back to my 2018 self and were to tell them that this would happen a year later, they'd have laughed in my face!!
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020
