just wanted to drop in and tell you that I've been keeping up with your updates. Sorry to hear everything, but you know what to do. It's just hard as hell to do it in your own sitch! Ha, I know all about that!
Me and my dog have gotten out twice in the last week and have shots a fair amount of birds. Fall is here and I know you are probably looking forward to that as well.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
Hope things are going well, Steve. You've been a big help to me and many others here. If anyone knows how to DB, it's you. Good luck, brother...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Hey everyone, sorry for the delay. Been really busy the last week and a half. Have had a chance to pop in and read a little but not to respond. Been GAL like a madman. Never really lapsed on that too much, but have had lots of opportunities to do so recently (it is that time of year), and I think they all came at a perfect time. W continues to be an open-book, she is fully transparent. Everything is unlocked and I know all her passwords, etc.
Our relationship, believe it or not, was really good prior to the last hiccup. It is even better now. I know that not every LBS that comes here is at fault for their sitch, but I know that my behavior played a large role, maybe 75% or more, of what occurred in my marriage. In fact, I saw a newbie post the other day that reminded me so much of where I was a 2 years ago. If you are a bitter, resentful, angry person that is miserable and makes everyone around you miserable too, then you have a lot of power in your hands to turn your life, and potentially your MR, around.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Hey everyone, sorry for the delay. Been really busy the last week and a half. Have had a chance to pop in and read a little but not to respond. Been GAL like a madman. Never really lapsed on that too much, but have had lots of opportunities to do so recently (it is that time of year), and I think they all came at a perfect time. W continues to be an open-book, she is fully transparent. Everything is unlocked and I know all her passwords, etc.
Our relationship, believe it or not, was really good prior to the last hiccup. It is even better now. I know that not every LBS that comes here is at fault for their sitch, but I know that my behavior played a large role, maybe 75% or more, of what occurred in my marriage. In fact, I saw a newbie post the other day that reminded me so much of where I was a 2 years ago. If you are a bitter, resentful, angry person that is miserable and makes everyone around you miserable too, then you have a lot of power in your hands to turn your life, and potentially your MR, around.
Glad to hear things are going well, Steve. Happy for you!
While I am happy this was nothing but a speed bump, you should probably look into whether you did anything to contribute to the speed bump. There was obviously discontentment on her side that led to this. Of course, it is likely there was nothing you could have done and it was her issue to fix but if there was and if you can understand why and fix it, it can likely prevent a relapse in the future.
