I know I know. It had to happen it just hurts. A lot.
It's a huge hit to one's finances, a lost best friend, lots of memories that one pushes away for a spell?
Money is going to be a big problem. He’s set. Me not so much.
He asked S19 what I’m taking S19 said whatever isn’t here on Sunday. Yep still angry. S19 was going to move next week but WAH rented the way nicer house for D14. Now S19 is leaving with me. He says the food goes with me and the Internet goes with him. I’m a great cook and S19 is our tech guy.
There are 8 of us. I took everything. He said I could have anything i wanted so I took it. I left crap in the attic, his garage stuff and his mothers furniture. House is empty except for D14s room and family furniture.
He’s working tonight and left D14. He told her he’d take care of her but nope. Said he might come there after work (2am). I asked if she wanted to spend the night with me and she said yes. Getting her food now.
I’m all moved in and D14 and D17 are here. My house is so small that I can hear them giggling from the living room. It’s adorable. S19 is working but he will be home later. I am grateful for my friends. My coworker and her family spent the entire day helping me move. I did it without WAH. Yay me. Lol
When my wife and I split after selling our house, I moved to my apartment. I could hear the neighbors from all sides and had to tell my two boys constantly to not stomp too hard since we were on the second floor. It's a small place but I made the best of it. My youngest son, age 7 would take his little chair outside onto the balcony every day after school for a little bit to feel the breeze and to be out in the sun. He'd watch his ipad. My older one would ask me to find old songs to listen to and we would all dance and sing before the neighbors downstairs got home. it was nice to have everyone together but I can see how that can be a bigger issue with older kids.
My W mentioned she would want to D some time after we split and got settled in. I could not stop that if that was what she wanted. I however also didn't allow an impending D to loom over my head like it was a death sentence. I lived my life with my two boys and I welcomed her to join us. I guess something changed with her and for right now we are trying to make things work. No guarantees and I am okay with that. We can go on blaming ourselves or them if we want or we can keep it moving and find ways to enjoy life and enjoy what we do have.
If this place is too small and you know its temporary, so be it. Make the best of it and let it be the catalyst to something greater. If you're going to be there for a while, make it homey the best you can.
Sounds like you got a great group of people around you. Enjoy that time with other people who are there for you. Forget WAH.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
