S19 is very unhappy today. Miserable. WAH told him yesterday that this was all his fault. It was easier when he blamed it on me because then I think hey maybe down the road I can fix me. If it’s his fault and he goes through with the D without attempting to fix it then that’s it.
Unless I win the lottery I’m stuck here.
I’m tired. Woke up this morning wondering how soon it will be before I get served.
WAH told him yesterday that this was all his fault. It was easier when he blamed it on me because then I think hey maybe down the road I can fix me. If it’s his fault and he goes through with the D without attempting to fix it then that’s it.
Hi Kas, people often say during breakups, "It's not you, it's me." If it helps, I'm skeptical he believes it's all his fault. He was having a conversation with your son and may not have wanted to name your faults. You know, trying to be good co-parents? Reconciling with my partner has meant seeing neither of us as the "good guy" nor "bad guy". We both try and we both goof. If we have enough common ground, it's the trying that matters. Although, I've learned "trying" isn't just the day-to-day but also includes self-improvement. We were doing plenty of day-to-day trying just before things all crashed to splinters.
CW he threw me under the bus early and often. We aren’t going to be co parents. Ever. He left D14 sitting in an empty house, the house I just cleaned out while he works retail. Her bedroom is there but there is no food, cups, or internet. He has no idea. Says they will move tonight you know after work....on a school night.
I took D14 back to the house because WAH wanted her to pack plus the pets are there. At the time I didn’t know WAH was working. I assumed he’d be there soon but he won’t get off work until 8pm. Really?
IHe left D14 sitting in an empty house, the house I just cleaned out while he works retail. Her bedroom is there but there is no food, cups, or internet. He has no idea.
Kas, bizarre. I'd feel incredibly frustrated if my daughter were treated like that, and maybe a bit concerned about when she starts spending days at his home.
Today I’m struggling which means I can barely take care of the kids I have now. Logically I know I’ve been living alone for almost 7 months but now it’s real. I’m tired, haven’t eaten a decent meal in days, my stuff is all in boxes and I have to work tomorrow.
WAH is moving D14 tonight. She’s been texting me, crying saying she made a bad decision. Said she should have listened to D17 and me. Being an only child sounds great in theory but she misses us. WAH literally lives 2 minutes from me. S19 living with him makes the most sense because he’s older and has a car. I’d see him every other day easily. D14 would be better off here. She could stay with WAH as much as she wanted. He has room I don’t.
