Hmm a difficult one. Not being a father, I may not be the best person to give advice, but here's my bit:
You have been accommodating in agreeing to 2 occasions where you will help her out. Pus you've stipulated terms (i.e. drop him at yours first) so you're not being too passive which is good.
Definitely don't just agree and say yes immediately to the two extra occasions. On one hand you want to help S. On the other, she seemingly doesn't want you, yet needs your help here.
She needs to understand that you're not a taxi service anymore, but at the same time you don't want this to affect S in a detrimental way. Could you suggest S gets a lift with a friend whose parent can take him to her place?
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020
DS, sounds like her work situation changed and that the request is legit and not just some attempt to take advantage of you. If that's the case then I would suggest working with her if it's not a huge inconvenience to you. This kind of stuff does happen in coparenting. Personally I feel it's best to try to remain a little flexible on these requests because you might need the favor returned. My XW and I have had to move days around and even switch entire weeks to work around work travel, meetings and overtime.
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