For example, I am walking down the street with my lady after enjoying an evening at the night club. 6 drunk guys acting stupid are headed our way. I lead her across the street as soon as I see them. We take a little longer way to the car to make sure she is safe.
Walking through crowds, I guide her behind me and "make a path" for her to walk. My job is to make her FEEL safe.
Google this: Why Do Women Want to Feel Protected By Their Man
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When a woman interacts with a guy and rejects him because he is nervous, insecure and self-doubting around her, it represents a challenge to him to fix his emotional issues and become stronger, or face the prospect of being alone for longer.
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a woman’s instinctive desire to feel protected by a man hasn’t gone away. It’s a hard-wired instinct and it is difficult to ignore for even the most independent of modern women.
Originally Posted by kbuenob
She also said that she's been in "blur" for the last 5 years and she can see very clearly now and knows that she doesn't want to be with me anymore. She said we have nothing in common and that I'm not sweet/romantic enough (which is something she complained about in the past). She said we don't view the world the same.
This is the biggest red flag. You have a lot of work to do.
DBing is relationship triage. Your past behavior got you here. You have to completely reinvent yourself. This is the biggest test of your life. Pass the test.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
For example, I am walking down the street with my lady after enjoying an evening at the night club. 6 drunk guys acting stupid are headed our way. I lead her across the street as soon as I see them. We take a little longer way to the car to make sure she is safe.
I can definitely do this
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You have to completely reinvent yourself. This is the biggest test of your life. Pass the test.
Truly is and has been so far. I am strong, I know I can do this for myself. I have to.
Yeah so I'm starting to think sex the other night for her was just a physical need. Nothing really changed much- it's been business as usual. that's what I was counting on though. I'm actually proud of myself for not pursuing any more affection from her.
BUT NOW I HAVE A QUESTION
Since she expressed her need for sex, can I not express the same?
If I wanted to be intimate with her, would it be wrong of me to make advances like she did to me? I know to play it cool if i get rejected, but would that be pursuing if i just wanted to have sex?
