I have read your old(er) thread on WW with great interest, as it includes many insights and reminds me of my WW and her behavior. I would love if you could weigh-in on my sitch, as I/m not exactly sure with the best way to proceed to maybe get to place where an R would be a viable option. Thank you.
Last edited by job; 11/07/1910:29 PM. Reason: added link to previous thread
Hey WMLC. From reading your sitch, i think, as you seem to be realizing yourself, that your W is a WW and not in a MLC. Sandi2 can probably weigh in a little more, but alot of us here have gone through the same thing... WW syndrome seems to be a lot more prevalent than MLCs on here.
You can get a lot of good insight just by reading "Sandi's Rules", which i believe are stickied in the newcomer's forums, as well as reading through her other threads. She has also helped a number of particular posters on here who have suffered through having a WW (myself included), and, as Steve indicated, all hope is not lost even where you have "screwed up" (as he and i both have on more than one occasion, lol).
One more thought, since you are in fact a newcomer and will have questions and concerns likely spanning a wide range of issues/topics, probably not a bad idea to run your threads over here on the newcomer's forum... is a significantly more widely frequented forum and you are more likely, imo, to get feedback when posting over here.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
I'm confused, how do you guys distinguish between a wayward wife, a walkaway wife, and a mid life crisis??? (asking because I'm in the walkaway wife column, but not sure how that intersects with MLC and what the differences are)
I'm confused, how do you guys distinguish between a wayward wife, a walkaway wife, and a mid life crisis??? (asking because I'm in the walkaway wife column, but not sure how that intersects with MLC and what the differences are)
Wayward wife usually involves an EA/OM. Whereas Walkaway Wife is just fed up with you or MR, but no one else is involved.
Not sure about MLC... MLC and Walkaway seems relatively the same to me, except maybe MLC is more age specific around 40/50 age range, even though there is QLC around 30.
Wayward wife - actively involved with another person. Secret Affairs etc. Walkaway - done working on marriage. Believe H will not change. MLC - missing/missed out on something.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Let me close this part by saying that There are some women who leave the M due to giving up, out of discouragement, loss of connection, etc. Perhaps the H neglected her to the point she no longer wants to stay with him. Perhaps he has nothing at all, but she has other issues. And of course, there are WAW's who come from abusive R's, and other issues I could name, but the point I'm making is that these woman may not have a wayward heart. Just b/c they left the MR, does not mean their heart has gone bad. That was my point in dividing the wayward wife from the walk-away wife.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Thanks for the feedback. Maybe filing D unnecessary if I just proceed to discuss what D would look like for her. Not going to rush a decision on it, but love gathering all your opinions.
