Shes moving her stuff back into the MBR

[kbuenob]

Not sure how the night will play out guys...im unsure of what to do

[Ready2Change]

Not sure how the night will play out guys...im unsure of what to do

Stay in your room. Let her spew. Listen. Validate.

[JR45]

keep your cool and stay in control of the situation. Don’t let things escalate. Just validate.

[Ready2Change]

Validate = reflect back that you understand how she is feeling with your words.

[NewLife3]

She is full of hate right now.

They always seem to be. Frustrating. I honestly don't see how I would ever want to reconcile with my wife as much hatred and bitterness she has thrown towards me in recent months.

I mean what percentage of WAS ever truly apologize for their behavior ?

[Ready2Change]

W:"I hate you!!!!"
H:"I understand you hate me"

or

H"I am sorry you feel that way" (She will get angryier...stay calm)

[JR45]

Think about it this way; as emotionally confused as you feel right now, look at how you’re able to think more clearly in the heat of the moment. Now look at her and imagine how emotionally wrecked she is right now. Empathize. Validate. Stay in control.

[Ready2Change]

Think about it this way; as emotionally confused as you feel right now, look at how you’re able to think more clearly in the heat of the moment. Now look at her and imagine how emotionally wrecked she is right now. Empathize. Validate. Stay in control.

Well said.

[kbuenob]

I see it. She's throwing stuff around. im calm

[JR45]

It’s only going to make her more angry because she want to fight with you so she can justify her actions. Don’t fall for it.