And yes you thought you were dealing with a MLC because it is easier if you can find a cause, then there is a potential "cure". That mentality will kill you. This is happening because you only get control of one person in this life, and it ain't her's.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Steve85, I agree with you 100 percent. I am really focusing on GAL, 180s and minimal contact with W. When we are at the house, we only discuss the kids. She will try with the small talk, "Hi," "Have a good day" "I'll talk to you later" etc. I do not respond to anything other than talking about kids or bills. This really bothers her, as it represents a 180 for me, who usually defaults to NSG actions.
I just moved his thread from MLC to Newcomers. It's close to being locked.
WMLC, do you want me to lock your first thread and then link both threads up?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Not much to update really. I really hate living in limbo land. W wants a D, but won't move it forward (at least not quickly anyway). I have been spinning a bit the last few days. I am not certain what I want or what to do. Head says to push the D and move on, but the heart (usually) says be the lighthouse and she will eventually emerge from the tunnel. Our interactions are cordial, no yelling etc., but she is drifting further away as I DB. I am also detaching, which would be even easier without kids.
