Wow that feeling circle is really useful. Bookmarked that and will study it often.
My problem was identifying and articulating my feelings. I'm getting better at it but I could still improve.
Augusto, you do need to validate more. It is very difficult. Nobody teaches you how to do this. And now you have to learn how to do it very quickly. I read on a another thread - think of it as allowing the S to attack you, but by validating you simply 'dodge' the attack and let them fly past you without hitting you.
Acknowledgement is the crucial word here. As said before, you're not agreeing ("yes I was rotten to you. I'm sorry"); instead you show you've listened ("It sounds like you're feeling [x] when I [x]." then leave that sentence as it is).
Me - 36, W - 32 No kids T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr Discovery - 14 May 2019 S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019 D & House sale final - Feb 2020
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
