She then suggested for ... the sake of my son, that maybe it will be best for me to leave then.
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I don’t feel like I should have to leave our home
Did she give you reasons why she thought it would be best for your son?
She actually said for the sake of my son and myself. She said I need to love myself more than trying to wait for my husband to come around. And that I need to be an example for my son so that he doesn’t think this is how a relationship should be. She said she understands that I have compassion for my husband but I also need to have Love for myself. She said if my husband wants a divorce then there’s no reason to prolong that.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
Living, Just for some perspective on leaving. I was dead set on not leaving the house but after 2 years and 1 month almost to the day I moved out and rented a place on Nov 1. Financially it has been a struggle but at the end of the day mentally I am in a far better place. The main reason I wanted to share this though is the immediate changes I saw in my kids. I had been stuck for so long sharing the house that I think I became blind to the real effects the situation was having on my kids. A huge weight was lifted off their shoulders. All three are much happier, they are all sleeping much better and gone are the tummy aches, wanting to stay home from school etc. Just some observations I wanted share.
Living, Just for some perspective on leaving. I was dead set on not leaving the house but after 2 years and 1 month almost to the day I moved out and rented a place on Nov 1. Financially it has been a struggle but at the end of the day mentally I am in a far better place. The main reason I wanted to share this though is the immediate changes I saw in my kids. I had been stuck for so long sharing the house that I think I became blind to the real effects the situation was having on my kids. A huge weight was lifted off their shoulders. All three are much happier, they are all sleeping much better and gone are the tummy aches, wanting to stay home from school etc. Just some observations I wanted share.
Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad to hear that you and your kids have adjusted well to your move. I’m sure my son would be fine if we moved. He’s 16 and doing things teenagers do. You know they very rarely have time for the parents. Lol.
I have some decisions to make. I’m going to see how this appointment goes next week. It’s been 2 years since all this began, maybe it’s time for me to move on. I’m still so torn but I can see how moving on could be good for me but again I’m torn.
I think I was banking on him relocating. Then he decided to stay. Now he wants to fix the things that need work in our house. He doesn’t want to start the divorce until after that’s all done.
I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to leave this dude. That frustrates me.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
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