Keep your focus on permanent, positive changes to your behavior.
During the times when you interact with her, focus hard on listening to her. Understanding her. Listen to understand her story. It is her story.
Most likely she will cycle though phases of anger. Let her express her anger. Handle it. Be her rock. This will be the biggest test of your life. Pass the test.
As far as answering questions, very little words.
W:Why now??" H:"I decided I don't want to be like that anymore"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Good morning all around. Very little sleep last night, would normally be grumpy and have short fuse. Pushed through the tiredness, focused on kids having good morning. Kids were happy, made me happy. W was in better mood than yesterday. Morning still would have good without her mood but added bonus.
Psychologist appoint went good. He validated working myself, and kids. Changes are for better Hank right now. Will continue to focus on that.
I suggest weightlifting, running, sports leagues, hot yoga, hiking, etc to really focus your mind on something. It will also tire your body and help you sleep and feel better.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you Job for asking. I’ve tried posting the last few days but I have been so exhausted it’s been hard to put a thought together.
After the R talk on Wednesday night, W was in a great mood on Thursday and this morning. Starting small talk when kids around and when not. Asking how appointment went, etc.
When I got home from my appointment yesterday I noticed W had left item she needs for work at home, I took it to her work and dropped it off with another employee. W called after work to thank me.
I got a message from her today showing me that she was using a Christmas gift I got her, at work.
Things have been good with the kids and I, I have been attentive to them and am looking forward to the weekend.
I have been so tired these last few days and it started to show in my patience last night while putting youngest to bed. I tried to me aware of what I was doing and correct myself but I also know I’m not perfect and tell myself that I will make mistakes.
You are only human and we all make mistakes. The lessons learned from those mistakes will help us to be better people in the long run.
I'm glad things are a wee bit better in the communication arena between you and your wife.
Keep up the good work.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
