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SD,

You know the answer to your question.

MC while she is having an A is a complete waste of money. No more MC until you are piecing your marriage. You should be in IC and working on your value and self worth.

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Originally Posted by SaltyDog
She went and liked all the photos I've put on Facebook of me and the boys.


This means absolutely nothing, so don't read anything into it. My XW did this until I quit FB (which I don't regret one bit) on the day of our divorce. She'd like every photo that included one of our daughters. Pictures of just me rarely got a like.

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Originally Posted by harvey
Pictures of just me rarely got a like.

Well maybe she didn't like the pictures.

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Originally Posted by LH19
SD,

You know the answer to your question.

MC while she is having an A is a complete waste of money. No more MC until you are piecing your marriage. You should be in IC and working on your value and self worth.

I didn't realize that about MC. I am in IC and have weekly appointments set up.

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Hi SaltyDog,

Going to MC when she's not invested is a common rookie move.

"I've canceled it."

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Originally Posted by SaltyDog
Just got a message from her - she got a reminder about our MC appointment on Friday. She wasn't planning on joining because she's out of town and the video-conferencing only allows 1 person to join but asked if I was going to go, and if not we would need to cancel.

One time in the past where I wasn't able to join she put me on speaker and we did the session that way. She obviously isn't brining that up as an option. I am planning on attending no matter what. Just wondering if I should throw out there a way for her to join as well when I respond or just say "I will attend." and leave it at that.


"I will attend" is perfect. She has made her decision already known.


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Originally Posted by LH19
Originally Posted by harvey
Pictures of just me rarely got a like.

Well maybe she didn't like the pictures.


She didn't like who was in the picture. smile

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Originally Posted by CWarrior
Hi SaltyDog,

Going to MC when she's not invested is a common rookie move.

"I've canceled it."

Better or worse - the above or ccing the W on my message to counselor saying we need to cancel and not responding to her message?

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Originally Posted by Steve85
"I will attend" is perfect. She has made her decision already known.

Steve throwing the curve ball!!

My original thought was talking to anyone is a good idea and even though she's a MC I thought she could have some advice for me. I didn't even think of cancelling until it was recommended. Now I'm torn.

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It's ok to use your MC as your IC. Unless you already have an IC then just cancel it.

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