I expect that as well. I've heard rumors. Its hard for me to believe because the guy I've heard rumors about is 30, just had a baby, is super fit, and my wife is 41 and not nearly as attractive as the guys wife - but you never know. I do expect something is probably up.
It would give me a lot of freedom if there was another man again.
Don, you can express your disagreement without throwing a temper tantrum. I told Scott my opinion, he acknowledged it was good advice, he considered it and he rejected it for personal reasons which is absolutely his right and I respect that. You however do not have the right to express your opinion like it is the only one that matters. Step back, take a deep breath, relax, chill. You have an opposing view then by all means express it, but do not come in here attacking me or anyone else, you do not have the right.
Honestly, that was intended as much as a playfully-sarcastic response as anything. After sending it I figured it may not land that way as often happens with text only. Obviously it’s not the worst advice ever in a literal sense. I still stand by my comments but the contrived humor-attempted exaggeration got lost, and for that I apologize.
It does still hit me that in the past, smoking pot with your kids or taking an 11 year old to an R rated movie, or allowing or facilitating them to do something that could truly bring them harm like taking them to a violent protest/riot would be seen as a risky pre D move that could paint them in a bad light with the court. But in 2020, and evidently continuing into 2021, having the brazen audacity to fly to Florida to visit family is placed on the same level. How far we have come in so short of time. And not in a good way.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Scott, take this time to work on yourself. Broken attracts broken. If you do not put in the work now, you will be setting yourself up for a future BD in a new R.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Scott, I know you do a lot of work with these retreats and men’s clubs and GAL. You fill up every single second of your free time to distract yourself.
While anxiously GAL is a great thing, I’m worried that you can’t just “be” alone and still for any period of time. That’s what you should be working on. Not filling it in with dating.
Gradually introduce yourself to some quiet calm free time. It’s actually very rewarding. Binge watch a show in your sweats a few hours one day. Read a book NOT A REALTIONSHIO OR SEL HELP BOOK) learn a new hobby in the solitude of your home. Cool yourself a nice meal and then eat it alone.
Before you can be good company to another lady, you have to learn to be good solo company to yourself
