I'm fine with it, its not impacting my life at this time and I'm aware of it.
I'll take your word on that. We're of course 1,000,000 miles away--or next door? The Internet.
Originally Posted by ScottB
The conversation with her went very well; we stayed focused on my son the entire time.
Great, a productive conversation about your son's issue, without getting angry or blaming it on the D. That's definitely a step forward along the path to detachment.
Originally Posted by ScottB
I guess its like pulling the scab off of a healing wound. Its not nearly as intense as the initial cut but it does do damage.
It may never entirely go away, but as you say it'll morph from a gaping wound, to a scab, to a small scar. Glad you're at the "scab" phase already where it hurts a bit less than the "gaping wound" phase.
It does not impact my day to day. I don't get buzzed or drunk. I perceive it as a non issue generally. Some of this is how I was brought up. My grandmother was a two to three scotch per night drinker and so was my grandfather. My dad typically has one to two scotches a night and then shares a bottle of wine with my mom. My brother is a heavy drinker. He hits the bourbon pretty hard and could slow down.
So in my little world a beer or two a night is not a big deal. My Ex used to have about 3/4ers a bottle of prosecco nearly each night - I thought that was a lot. Anyhow, I don't think I have an issue. I love to workout and the days after a night of drinking out mess up my workouts. Those are the kind of things I'm doing more. Going to the bar with friends once a week and drinking more than I feel like I should. But I'm fine with it, its not impacting my life at this time and I'm aware of it.
Family history is actually really important to pointing to genetics around addiction. I have a preceding family member that was an alcoholic and committed suicide. Just another reason I am determined to never ever touch the stuff again.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
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