CW great questions. I left some parts out because it seemed fake. The part I left in is more like me or something I would say. As far the bf and uncle being there. I pulled up text my d and left after 1 minute. Lawyer did tell me to show interest in having my child. If I don’t, they can use that against me. My d didn’t say anything about me being there or not. I just didn’t want my ex to say anything to my d that might upset her. She lies, and I did t want her to make up a lie to her and stress her and she not dance well. I am definitely not ashamed, I said hello to a couple of the fathers there. I am not unashamed, just curious what a Recording of me walking out will do? Probably right CW.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
I think you did fine by going to the recital. You stayed in the back and didn't cause any kind of issue. But you can say you were there for your kid. She'll appreciate it.
Your ex is a vicious piece of work. She's crazy mad that you're with someone else even though she's the one that left. They always want us to hang around pining for them, waiting to be plan B.
Just keep up the positivity with your daughter. You can text her that you came to see her performance, that you stayed in the back so as not to bother anyone, but that you are so proud of her and she did great. NO court will see that as a bad thing.
You can text her that you came to see her performance, that you stayed in the back so as not to bother anyone, but that you are so proud of her and she did great. NO court will see that as a bad thing.
I think you did fine by going to the recital. You stayed in the back and didn't cause any kind of issue. But you can say you were there for your kid. She'll appreciate it.
Your ex is a vicious piece of work. She's crazy mad that you're with someone else even though she's the one that left. They always want us to hang around pining for them, waiting to be plan B.
Just keep up the positivity with your daughter. You can text her that you came to see her performance, that you stayed in the back so as not to bother anyone, but that you are so proud of her and she did great. NO court will see that as a bad thing.
Thank you for this. I did text her how proud I was of her dance and that she looked great. And I said love you.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
Wow. I agree with what KML says... she is definitely a piece of work. Re: your D. Just keep sending her texts on a regular basis. Expect nothing in return. It doesn’t matter if she responds or not. Your goal is just to let her know you are thinking about her, you love her and that you aren’t mad at her. Leave the door open.
Your D is only getting older. Eventually, she will start to rebel against her mom as her observations will not match with her mom’s characterization of you. The other thing that might happen is that her and her mom start getting into regular disagreements and you’ll get an angry call from you ex one day to come and get her. I’ve seen that happen more than a few times. The important thing to remember is that the only person you can control is you. Stay positive, stay open, stay as involved as she will allow.
I think it is brilliant you went to her recital and that you texted her later to tell her how great she did and how proud you were. It doesn’t matter that she didn’t text back. She got the message. You were there for her. There is no other way to spin that. Hang in there CW. This isn’t going to last forever. (((HUGS)))
Well the plot thickens. Yesterday I had my son. So at night I drove him home. While I was driving him home the sheriff showed up at my house looking for me. What is she up to now. They wouldn’t tell my gf anything and just left her a slip for me to call. I have cameras at my home and I saw they had 3 pages of something. What now!!?? Is this for going to her dance and I am “harassing” them? Or it an order to stay away from them? Or a change of custody? Stay tuned for my messed up life. This woman just doesn’t stop. My gf is due in 3 weeks and it’s like she is stepping up the hatred and anger towards us.
I need help with this other issue. My gr works 10 hour days 6 days a week because when she has the baby obviously she won’t be working it will just be me. So she is trying to hustle to make the most to help out. I told her she shouldn’t be working that much considering she is 9 month’s pregnant but she insists. So, when she get home around 6pm she is exhausted. So, she says hello to me and my son and goes and lays in bed. I have been taking care of dinner and we all eat together everytime I have my son. I have noticed my s is becoming distant towards gf now. When she wasn’t pregnant she played Xbox with him, we all shot hoops together, they would have pillow fights, hide and seek etc. But obviously she can’t do some of those things and her working so much and being so pregnant she is exhausted. I explained to my s that because she is pregnant and works a lot it’s hard for her to do all the things she used to do. And that she loves him and cares about him very much. I said to my s you know gf loves you and loves being with you? He shook his head no. I said I understand that you may feel that way because she has not been involved as much, I also said to him that even when he is not there she lays in bed most of the time. (Side note my gf has gained 35 pounds all belly but still a lot of extra weight to carry around.) I want him to understand that’s it’s not just when he is there. Yesterday I decided to take everyone to eat. At first my s looked angry. Gf was trying to talk to him and little by little he started to come “back to normal”. By the end of the night when he was leaving she s to my s where is my hug. He barely put his arms around her (he has hugged her many times in the past) so joking with him she grabbed his arms and put them around her. And then I took him to his moms. 1. My gf is upset that my s barely acknowledges her now. And I talk to her that she needs to be as consistent as possible. But she says why should she keep trying when he keeps shooting her down and that upsets her. And she doesn’t want to feel stressed or upset while she is pregnant. I told her she didn’t have to go and play all those things, but just ask how his day was and what’s new. And that he never says hello or goodbye to her that I have to make him say it. 2. The other problem is his mother. I have to put this in because I think it’s a contributing factor. When gf was so involved with my s my ex actually said to me in front of the kids, that she is always around and never gives me any time with my kids. Which was it true, everytime she would go upstairs for about an hour or 2 so I could have that alone time. I know, I know speculation but I feel like if she is around she will complain my gf is around too much. If she gives us time they she doesn’t care. I know I can’t change what the ex says but I feel it’s a big influence on my s on the way he looks at gf. Honestly I am confused on what to do.
Have any of you gone through this with step kids? Where you are nice and they just continually reject you? Is the “step-parent” continue to try forever? Do you speak with the kids that they have to put effort in too? I didn’t come from divorced parents and literally not a single friend of mine growing up was divorced. So I have no idea how to handle this.
M:42 XW:41 T:19 M: 15 D:13 S:10 BD: 8/10/18 Moved out: 8/18 Moved in: 9/18/18 Moved out: 4/22/19 D papers signed 11/4/19 D final 3/18/20
So Wolf your D was final say roughly a year ago and now you and your ex are trying to shove a new mom, new dad and new sibling down their throat and you wonder why your children are acting this way? What you guys are doing to them is borderline criminal. Sorry for the honesty.
