No, there is only separated. He is a legally married man, who is separated from his wife and not divorced yet.
I'm with you on the "still married" thing, but also separated two weeks with tons of mixed emotions is a lot different than separated 10 years and not D'd just because insurance / finances are more favorable. There's a middle point in there.
Originally Posted by MLCxH
He may be done with his ex but he may need time to heal from his D. The statistics on rebound relationships are fairly well known.
Not saying she should date him - you make a good point which should be considered - but Ginger and I (and others here) have had our Exs last a long time with their affair partners. Those stats always seem a bit unfair to us.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
And he did the sweetest thing before we parted ways. He kissed me on the forehead. No one has done that in I can’t tell you how long.
Hmmm. I will have to add that to my repertoire.
Haha, lots of good lessons to learn here on the boards!
Here's another lesson:
For a kiss on the forehead to have any value or meaning it should be from the heart, NOT PART OF AN EFFING REPERTOIRE!
Cheese n Rice that comment frosts my cookies. THIS is PART OF THE EFFING PROBLEM.
DROP THE EFFING STATS STOP TRYING TO USE YOUR LEFT BRAIN TO ANALYZE A FREAKING EMOTION LIKE LOVE STOP STOCKPILING THINGS FOR A REPERTOIRE TO UP YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING ACTION.
It's So EFFING offensive.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
I dated within a few months of my ex leaving. BUT I had been DBing my marriage for years, had reconciled once before, my ex was a three time offender, and I was completely sure that I would never take hm back under ANY circumstances. I was done and really healed at that time - I had peace in my heart that I had done everything possible for my marriage, and peace that I did not want him back. Just because it took another year to complete the legal process of a divorce, I was more than ready to date and I did.
Some people's divorce drag out for a long time for reasons other than attachment. And some people went through the necessary emotional process before their ex left. I'm not saying it's common, necessarily - and it's a reason why you have to assess whether someone is truly done with their marriage or not.
STOP TRYING TO USE YOUR LEFT BRAIN TO ANALYZE A FREAKING EMOTION LIKE LOVE
Oh I didn't realize G's date was in lover with her already.
Relax BF it made G feel good. I like to make women feel good.
You find it offensive because you think you are going to be played. Trust me woman can spot a man's BS a mile away. You will be fine and know when he is sincere or if he is just trying to get into your knickers. Unless of course he is a Chad than all bets are off lol.
I dated within a few months of my ex leaving. BUT I had been DBing my marriage for years, had reconciled once before, my ex was a three time offender, and I was completely sure that I would never take hm back under ANY circumstances. I was done and really healed at that time - I had peace in my heart that I had done everything possible for my marriage, and peace that I did not want him back. Just because it took another year to complete the legal process of a divorce, I was more than ready to date and I did.
Some people's divorce drag out for a long time for reasons other than attachment. And some people went through the necessary emotional process before their ex left. I'm not saying it's common, necessarily - and it's a reason why you have to assess whether someone is truly done with their marriage or not.
Ask Andrew how he has made out dating married people.
I’m sitting here in a dentist chair waiting for my crown to be made and I thought I would at b up.
1) I dated when I was separated too. It’s not not a “moral” thing to me if they aren’t living together and in the proceedings. The part for me as to why I don’t like to be separated men is because I know they need time to be single and heal. That’s my hesitation
2) I don’t know that he is emotionally available or unavailable. He’s been very open with me, he hasn’t been guarded or emotionally distant. We have talked about everything and anything .
3) I’ve also dated men who were divorced for a few years. And they were messes. Which is why I’ve been more flexible with my hard and fast rules
4) the forehead kiss wasn’t a “move” it was just nice .
5) he’s not a “wealthy man of status” he has a career and he makes a living . I have no idea how much. I know he isn’t living with his parents. I know those townhomes cost a few bucks. That’s all. And I’m attracted to the person he is. And I like that we grew up very different yet both had overcome something pretty huge .
6) I don’t know what or if anything will come out of this. But perfect on paper hasn’t worked out ver well for me.
7) he asked me out for this Thursday. He will be away for 2 weeks. We are both looking forward to it. Nothing wrong with that
STOP TRYING TO USE YOUR LEFT BRAIN TO ANALYZE A FREAKING EMOTION LIKE LOVE
Oh I didn't realize G's date was in lover with her already.
Relax BF it made G feel good. I like to make women feel good.
You find it offensive because you think you are going to be played. Trust me woman can spot a man's BS a mile away. You will be fine and know when he is sincere or if he is just trying to get into your knickers. Unless of course he is a Chad than all bets are off lol.
Nice attempt to deflect.
It didn't work.
You, LH, You with your odds and your numbers and your freaking stats.
Adding something to a repertoire absolutely means you are playing someone.
Is anything freaking real with you?
I get you've been hurt man, haven't we all? Until and unless one is willing to be 100% honest and authentic, the returns one will get one the relationship front will be less than 100%.
Stop the walls and the games and get freaking real or go to the Sundowner.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
I dated within a few months of my ex leaving. BUT I had been DBing my marriage for years, had reconciled once before, my ex was a three time offender, and I was completely sure that I would never take hm back under ANY circumstances. I was done and really healed at that time - I had peace in my heart that I had done everything possible for my marriage, and peace that I did not want him back. Just because it took another year to complete the legal process of a divorce, I was more than ready to date and I did.
Some people's divorce drag out for a long time for reasons other than attachment. And some people went through the necessary emotional process before their ex left. I'm not saying it's common, necessarily - and it's a reason why you have to assess whether someone is truly done with their marriage or not.
This ^^^^
To the outside world...for me, the perception was that things moved quickly....
In reality...
I was 30 months post bomb, and had been ready for a while.....
The only "newness" was that information, to other people....
LH....
Keep going and you are gonna get your eyes scratched out by one of these women here....: )
I'm honestly unsure at this point if you are just randomly saying stupid Schidt to rile them up, or if you truly are having a hard time equating your version of what a Woman wants, to what they actually want...
???
Either way, I'm fine with it. Just seems to be a daily watch for the carnage from the train wreck.
B-lady is correct. The Forehead kiss isn't a trick or a ploy....
The difference between it being real and being a trick, involve being deeper than a "kiddie pool" with a massive hole in it....
And until you know the difference.....
I feel that your frustrations in the dating world are self induced.....
