Boundary after big D part five

[Mach40]

BL 42, as far as the amicable statement. We just dont need to fight, no reason to.. What will it do? Nothing.. Anytime we talk, its business. No relationship stuff etc.
My youngest is just being herself, and more looking out for her Mom, I believe. The guy is in late 50/early 60? Never married, no kids. Not rich, just a salesman for medical equipment. Drives a cheap Honda. Practical. She hasnt said anything to me, it was the oldest saying it. Just drama..
Its not going to steer my ex back to me, even if I did want it.
The divorce sheds so much light on the past.. She may be down and out right now financially due to real estate market. And she is having a relationship with a man. She has moved on. It is what it is. And as I remember and see more of it, it is in my best to not entertain a reconcile in my head.
I am sure I will hear more from the kids, I think it is just in their nature to tell me things..
The dating apps here are interesting. Once I figured out how to make browser use my actual location. VPN, even if not logged in is locked in closed location, so Atlanta was constantly giving me hits. Made it to where it wont turn on upon windows starting. Voila, I am in SC.'
I was surprised at amount of hits I got. Little self esteem goes a long ways.
I am going to see where the lady is in her life and start conversing with her more. Just discovery.
I know she is well educated based off of her career and who her clients were in Mass.

[BL42]

Drives a cheap Honda. Practical.

So did I...for more than a decade. Thought being practical and fiscally responsible was the way to go. After separation I upgraded big time ;-)

The divorce sheds so much light on the past.. She may be down and out right now financially due to real estate market. And she is having a relationship with a man. She has moved on. It is what it is.

Yep. Not your monkeys...

And as I remember, and see more of it, it is in my best to not entertain a reconcile in my head.

I'll share with you the quote from a longtime poster in the MLC board who came back recently, which I also shared with Pack_19 who's also having a tough time moving on after years:

If there was any advice I could give a newbie, it would be to do the work, move on, and live your life as if the EX isn't coming back. Don't waste time. Life is too short.

I am sure I will hear more from the kids, I think it is just in their nature to tell me things..

If it's not serving you, it's reasonable to request they don't share the details.

Once I figured out how to make browser use my actual location. VPN, even if not logged in is locked in closed location, so Atlanta was constantly giving me hits. Made it to where it wont turn on upon windows starting. Voila, I am in SC.'

So Mach...I think most people are using smartphone apps these days, not internet browsers on their laptops!

I was surprised at amount of hits I got. Little self esteem goes a long ways.

I'm sure that was validating.

I am going to see where the lady is in her life and start conversing with her more.

Good! Nothing wrong with some conversation and perhaps some flirting at this point.

[Mach40]

My browser on my laptop is synced with phone. Vpn was overiding location. All good now.
I wasnt suggesting a Honda was cheap.
I have one, a Toyota too.
I can afford german, but I am practical too.

[Mach40]

Ex sent me a text, wishing I have a good Christmas. I responded, you too.
And then she responded she worries about me. I have not responded, not sure what the hell that means.
Everything as of late has just been business, in reality..

[Dawn70]

I wouldn’t respond any further to her text. You’ll get drawn into a back and forth which will go nowhere. She wished you a good holiday and you responded in kind. No further discussion needed.

[DnJ]

Good Morning M

I agree with Dawn. No need to get drawn into some back and forth with XW.

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[Mach40]

Thnx, I figured that. Just weird. Out of the blue add on to a basic, have a nice Christmas..

[Mach40]

On a good note, going to a farm to play with animals and hopefully get on some horses. My oldest B Day. Its really for the grand baby, but, daughter wanted a day outdoors..
I really had a good time riding horses in Texas.. Just fun, takes ya back and its so peaceful..

[DnJ]

That sounds like a fun day. Have a wonderful time, and hope your daughter enjoys her day. How can she not. Dad, horses, outside, playing with animals. You’ll have to pry her away to go home.

[kml]

Temperature taking. Are you still her Plan B? She wants to know. Plus, if you’re miserable without her, it’s a boost to her ego.