I’ll skip talking about my love life, but I did learn about how he ended up with full custody. The short version is he just wanted what was fair. 50/50. But she wanted to take the kids back to her home state with her ( they were living in this state for4-5 years already) after a 6 figure custody battle he actually lost. She had a killer lawyer who said it was “premeditated “ to move here and the divorce. Although the divorce came years later and she started a business up here. His kids lived with mom down there for 6 months ( he never let a week go by without seeing them, he would fly to them and fly them back) and in that 6 months the kids were miserable and wouldn’t even talk to their mom. She said they could back and live with dad. And that’s where they are at. After the 6 figure divorce where he just wanted 50/50 he ended up with fill by the choice of the kids and mom.
That being said, they get along fine now. She comes up here every month or so. He told me his ex stays at the house when she comes. He asked me how i felt about that because women have had a big problem with it. I actually don’t at all. He said if we were dating and I wasn’t comfortable he would pay for her hotel. He doesn’t have her pay for a hotel because it’s more money she can save to fly here and she can be around the boys more when she is here. I am absolutely fine with their arrangement. I did think it was very thoughtful that he did ask how I would feel about that.
He’s really a dad who puts his kids first, I can say that much
I think this is why dating is so difficult and no one enjoys it. The fun gets sucked out of it when after two dates you already have to figure out if you are ok with exw staying with potential BF. There is ALWAYS stuff to deal with when getting to know someone is difficult within itself.
BTW lawyers love people like and laugh all the way to the bank when they get them as clients.
He’s really a dad who puts his kids first, I can say that much
Just as long as he doesn’t start proclaiming that, or he’s toast - right?
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
I think this is why dating is so difficult and no one enjoys it. The fun gets sucked out of it when after two dates you already have to figure out if you are ok with exw staying with potential BF. There is ALWAYS stuff to deal with when getting to know someone is difficult within itself.
BTW lawyers love people like and laugh all the way to the bank when they get them as clients.
Well, let’s be real. We aren’t dating at 20 with minimal Responsibilities, baggage, etc. we are middle aged folks with kids, custody, divorce, all of that fun stuff. Dating is NOT all fun and games at this stage. As much as we say it should be fun and easy, how can it be all butterflies and rainbows with all of the complications mid life comes with .
The good news is, no fun was killed at all for me with that question.
So far, so good. He’s a god awful texter, but I can tease him about it. He’s a little flaky. And he says whatever is on his mind, as in he isn’t the smoothest talker .
But he’s very sweet, he makes a real serious effort to see me. He’s funny and smart. The quirks i actually find endearing. We can laugh together about it. He wants to do things and have experiences together. We have some differences, but we are both open minded about them. I feel like I can be me around him.
Hockey guy has been popping in and out. He drunk texted me the other night when k happened to be drunk as well. I told him I don’t want to get back on the roller coaster. He did apologize. I do have a soft spot for him. He really is a very good soul. I honestly only wish for the best for him.
One day at a time. I’m having fun getting to know him.
Watch out for smooth talkers. They've had practice. For example, if you text "I don't want to get back on the roller coaster" and he responds with "How about we try the merry-go-round this time? There are painted horses that go up and down just a little bit. Lights. Mirrors. I know a place. I'll bring flowers this time and my best behavior. Promise." That guy is probably trouble. Trust me. Ask any woman I know.
But seriously, sounds promising. Good luck. Don't do anything I would do.
I met a delightful lady a few years ago at a friend's family bbq ... she said at our age most guys are looking for nurses or purses.
I hope she's wrong.
She may be right.
I believe we all have some wants and needs, thats normal. When young, we had no clue about much as far as lifes conquests that were headed our way. Mortgage, Kids, car payments, deadlines at work... I can believe people , to a certain point, are looking for nurses and purses ( both men and women). It makes sense. If its purely companionship, someone to enjoy a more mature life of, lets say travel, movies, or whatever, than thats great.. If we could act like we did when we were in the mid 20's, we would be probably need a nurse with a big purse, as we arent what we used to be. I am only 55, and I dont heal as fast as I did back in the day. I dont know, everyone is different. Some may be looking for purely physical, no connection at all. Others may be looking for the connection only. Who knows. Only the individual person does, thats who.
