Marching in limbo with MLC H (3)

[Rockon]

Any idea what is the cause of the anemia? Plans to treat it?

[marching]

Iron deficiency! I'm taking supplements and increasing the amount of iron in my diet.

[Rockon]

Ok hopefully that will help. Way to go marching.

[marching]

Thanks, Rock!

I'm getting better. I managed to get through my martial arts class this week without feeling faint. GALing like crazy. There were only two nights when I didn't attend some sort of social event.

Today I got a text from H. He said he's starting therapy next week and gave a bunch of details on how he arranged it.

I take this as a sign that he does still feel emotionally connected to me in some way. It doesn't necessarily mean he's interested in reconciliation. But it is a big change from how he interacted with me just two months ago.

[LH19]

I take this as a sign that he does still feel emotionally connected to me in some way.

He is still connected. Once you respond he will get his hit of dopamine and move forward. That's why you shouldn't respond but I bet you did.

It doesn't necessarily mean he's interested in reconciliation.

Exactly!

But it is a big change from how he interacted with me just two months ago.

Baby steps.

[BL42]

I'm getting better. I managed to get through my martial arts class this week without feeling faint. GALing like crazy. There were only two nights when I didn't attend some sort of social event.

Martial arts? Nice! Way to stay busy and be social.

Today I got a text from H. He said he's starting therapy next week and gave a bunch of details on how he arranged it.

Did you respond? Hopefully not...he needs therapy for sure but that's not your issue anymore.

[marching]

That's why you shouldn't respond but I bet you did.

I am afraid you are only half correct.

Did you respond? Hopefully not...he needs therapy for sure but that's not your issue anymore.

I haven't responded—yet. But I will after I talk to the DB coach.

So far I've been a little less friendly than the DB coach suggested (yes, she held firm to the "being friends" strategy even after I told her about the OWs) but also a little more responsive than advised here. This Middle Way seems to be working because we went from him wanting to start the D immediately, saying that talking to me makes him feel bad, and insisting that he is fine, to him not being in a rush to D, saying that he's willing to talk, and starting therapy. Of course, this could all change, but overall the temperature has gone down, which is good for my healing. So, if this roller coaster goes down again, I'm confident I'll be stronger than I was during previous dips.

All to say that even though I don't always follow the advice here directly, I always reflect on it and follow the spirit of it, and the input is always appreciated.

Martial arts? Nice! Way to stay busy and be social.

Yes! I'm learning how to literally kick a$$. It makes me feel great!

[DnJ]

Excellent!

Keep doing more of what works, and less of what doesn’t.

Glad to hear the DB coach is working out well.

D

[BL42]

marching,

So far I've been a little less friendly than the DB coach suggested (yes, she held firm to the "being friends" strategy even after I told her about the OWs) but also a little more responsive than advised here. This Middle Way seems to be working because we went from him wanting to start the D immediately, saying that talking to me makes him feel bad, and insisting that he is fine, to him not being in a rush to D, saying that he's willing to talk, and starting therapy. Of course, this could all change, but overall the temperature has gone down, which is good for my healing.

Whether you respond or not, just try not to do it with any expectations.

So, if this roller coaster goes down again, I'm confident I'll be stronger than I was during previous dips.

Good. That's important.

All to say that even though I don't always follow the advice here directly, I always reflect on it and follow the spirit of it, and the input is always appreciated.

Fair enough. We don't always agree here anyway; reflecting on it and making your own decision is smart. It's your life.

Martial arts? Nice! Way to stay busy and be social.

Yes! I'm learning how to literally kick a$$. It makes me feel great!

Niiiice! Get after it!

[Rockon]

Iron with effect! Martial arts, improved energy, GAL. Crushing it marching!