Yes I do have those funds to buy her out. She talked in the fall about wanting to sell the house but last week she said she doesn’t want to.
Rock I understand that you struggle with this and is why you are on this forum but I will try to hammer this point home again. Who gives a flying F what she wants to do? Can you afford to buy her out is ALL that matters?
You live a crazy life man. A few months ago you were broke and had to go back to work if I remember correctly. And now you can afford to buy her out.
Doesn’t matter what she wants. If you can buy buy her out that’s all that matters. If you can pay what she’s legal entitled too I don’t believe she can force you, but again, this is another one of those questions you’ll need to ask your lawyer. Laws very by state and commonwealths etc etc etc.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
It has been a stressful path. I have been able to secure my pension in the last couple months and with the help of a financial planner I see that I do now have the funds to buy her out. Things looked very dire for me in the fall and I was scared and very discouraged. You here on these boards have helped me stay on track and focused and that is what I have been doing everyday.
Boat, yes I agree with you. I was responding to DnJ’s counsel to be prepared and that W may try to force the sale. Indeed, she was loud in that sentiment when I was coincidentally at another low point in the fall.
Had a very satisfying and encouraging day at work to start this week. I received great feedback which was reinforcing for me that supervisors see me doing well. Took a bit of time during a break to have some tears of joy at my progress.
I have a mental challenge/hurdle in that we are in negotiation stage and yet I don’t want to do the heavy lifting in dividing our assets.
This is where I find myself and so it requires courage and proposing a settlement I agree with as DnJ has said.
Unfortunately the heavy lifting advice usually costs the LBS in the settlement. The longer it drags out the higher likely the WW loses the guilt and receives advice from AP, friends etc and goes back on things they originally agreed to. I know it happened to me. It’s ok if you don’t want to get the ball rolling but once it starts you want to do what’s best for you.
What is the proposal for child support for your adult kids?
L suggested that with me buying out the house I could propose to waive the amount of child support and reduce the money I pay to buy her out by that amount.
L suggested that with me buying out the house I could propose to waive the amount of child support and reduce the money I pay to buy her out by that amount.
I think you need a new lawyer. Value of house is X. Can you afford to buy her out? Waiving CS has nothing to do with it unless it reduces the payment to her for half of the house.
