I don’t know why no one told me that’s a good question. She showed up for an hour tops and S and I were there with everyone else for the whole day honestly having the time of our lives. My family and I are loved in this community. She has not spent much time around them since BD, just dropping in once in awhile.
My plan is to forward the email to L as well as the separation agreement W drafts and sends to me.
Minimal upbeat interaction: I was having a great time and didn’t change my tone or presence when she arrived. I gave her a wide berth and didn’t focus on her. She came over and said goodbye when she left at the first few drops of rain. I said goodbye. And S and I stayed to the end.
She texted a meme about Grandkids preferring their Grampas to me today and followed that with, “Everyday I wonder if I’m doing the right thing. You are a really good man. You brought up counseling many times in the past and I never agreed to go.”
She showed up for an hour tops and you hung out with everyone else? So…she was by herself the whole time? Doubtful.
You and the family are so loved by the community….seriously? Your community loves cheaters who take international trips to cheat on their husband? Sounds like a crappie community. Find a new one. Find one she isn’t a part of. Like we’ve been telling you…for years. You won’t though, you need these interactions.
I thought she already sent you the plan? Why wait for another one?
I don’t believe the last interaction happened at all. Your son doesn’t have kids, your grand child is states away, per your previous posts, and you son is an adult. Why in the world would she send that? Makes zero sense. Plus she knows you’re a “good man” Rock, now off to her boyfriends. If that interaction happened it’s an incredibly disrespectful thing to send.
Last edited by JosephS; 02/13/2412:04 PM.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
I definitely don’t feel respected by her and I have no idea why she sent it but nothing to respond to.
She has not sent me her proposal like I asked. She sent me a list of our assets and said we could toss a coin to decide who picks first. She said she would send a draft of a separation agreement separately and I haven’t received that.
At the coast she hung out with the group but I kept some distance and my attention on others. It was uncomfortable for me that she was there but I didn’t allow that to derail me having a great time.
If she sent it, it was to temp check to make sure you’re still plan B. Thus why the don’t sell the house.
You shouldn’t feel respected. And quite honestly you disrespect yourself by continue to put yourself in places she’s gonna be.
Wouldn’t it be nice to have a nice day and not have to talk about her?
You keep putting yourself in these situations.
I really think you need to go NC, find a new group of friends, give your kids the space to make a new life away from your and your wife’s nonsense and find who you are without them.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
I just joined DB and I'm at the same stage as Rockon, my house is going on the market in 3 weeks. She also suggested to me we keep the house, I said no way, the house is dead to me and continuing owning it with her and then having a 3rd party (OM) involved is not something j would ever want, not to mention having the legal/financial connection to her. She even tried to buy me out by saying she would, I know her income, I found it highly dubious, so I asked her to put it in writing either through our mediator or lawyer. It seemed to me like a stall tactic. I say either you guys buy one another out or sell the house. Do you really want to be in the house where your marriage was destroyed? Reliving memories or owning it with her and having to deal with OM. Not a healthy sitch, heck I hate going home I stay out as late as possible only use the place for basic human functions. I think she's toying wjth you much like mine is, unless it's on paper from a lawyer it ain't worth what she says.
