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[Catman19]

I would just initiate mediation, they will ask for full financial disclosure from separation date then you 2 can negotiate with mediator directly. She's just pretending to go through the process and dragging it out because she is either confused or doesn't take this seriously and you are allowing her to feel this way by waiting for her to deal directly with you. I'm in the same boat as you brother difference slightly as I forced the mediation issue and have consulted lawyer before her. Make everything clear in front or a professional you cannot deal with her directly she is still being irrational and by suggesting tou both keep home is just more delusion and her having her cake with you

[JosephS]

Rock? Did something happen that you’re struggling with?

[Rockon]

I have started to type an update a couple of times and then haven’t posted due to fatigue, Joseph, R2C and everyone.

I am coping and following the plan with what I know is important for my well being. No catastrophes or crises and still I have been struggling.

Work continues to go well and my focus is there and my family and closes fiends. I’ll update more specifics hopefully shortly.

[Ready2Change]

I am coping and following the plan with what I know is important for my well being.

Take care of you.

[JosephS]

I’m sorry Rock. Take the time you need for self care sir.

[Rockon]

Thank you friends.

I’m doing well and doing my best Joseph with self care. When I have some energy I will tell you about it.

One of my friends lost his son suddenly and tragically in February. Turning to his pain and being there for him is important and deeply meaningful to me and it has touched off painful emotions in me.

I have been processing and acknowledging so much anger this winter and also looking at pain, sorrow, loss underneath.

[DnJ]

Good Morning Rock

My condolences to your friend. The loss of a child is devastating and heartbreaking. Glad he has a good friend like you is his life.

Continue processing your anger, sorrow, pain, and loss. And yes, your friend’s loss will stir things within you. Perfectly normal and healthy.

Keep walking your path.

D

[Rockon]

I have attempted to connect at times here to give an update. Thank you for caring and reaching out friends.

I’m carrying on my path doing my best which is pretty good all things considered. S’s health has been a challenge this summer. Lots of appointments and consultations. It’s a burden and concern and one that I embrace as father.

W left the country to be with OM again and didn’t tell me she was going. Felt the sting of abandonment all over again. I had really been detached but this shows me I’m not altogether indifferent. I am ignoring her except matters about S. Hoping to settle division of assets and buy her out of the house soon.

[DnJ]

Good Morning Rock

I’m glad to hear from you.

How is the mountain biking going? Putting on lots of miles? Do you ride mostly roads or trails?

Son’s health needs are burdensome. Man to man, well done! Keep showing up. Keep embracing. Doing what is right.

W left the country to be with OM again and didn’t tell me she was going.

Focus on you. Don’t give two figs about what she’s doing. Or where she’s going. Or what she tells or doesn’t tell you. Focus on you.

Felt the sting of abandonment all over again. I had really been detached but this shows me I’m not altogether indifferent.

Follow the sting. These are your emotions. Your feelings. Find why. Find and make peace with them/yourself.

I am ignoring her except matters about S.

Good. Let’s take it up a notch.

“I’m focusing upon myself, living and loving my life. W and I do interact in matters regarding S.”

Ignoring her, then becomes a byproduct not the purposeful activity.

Hoping to settle division of assets and buy her out of the house soon.

Likewise, I hope things proceed smoothly and timely for you.

Take care of yourself my friend.

D

[Rockon]

Thank you D. Yes the mountain biking is most excellent. I am building my skills gradually and have a great small group of friends who make it even better. Trails and skills parks and some leisurely summer rides through town to get coffee or ice cream.

I appreciate this emphasis: “ Let’s take it up a notch.

“I’m focusing upon myself, living and loving my life. W and I do interact in matters regarding S.” ‘