At the name of Jesus, Satan has to flee

[grok]

Hi Whatlee,

How have you been the last few weeks?

I heard this song the other day, liked it, and thought of you and faith…and what we choose to stand for.

With Us Still by Colorvault

[Verse 1]
How small we are in the eyes of the world
To the world we look like fools
"Poor, little things" in the eyes of the world
Wastin' our breath on You
Chasin' the wind in the eyes of the world
Wandering, desperate, and blind
"Poor, little things" in the eyes of the world
Lookin' for some kind of, sign
And dumb enough to say it out loud

[Chorus]
You're with us still
You're with us still
Author of life

g

[Whatlee]

It's been a minute......looking for some advice. H, myself and 2 of our boys are on our car insurance. H has been paying his and 1/2 of our youngest part of the insurance. I know H's pay schedule and can also check his bank acct, he has normally already sent me his part, as far as today he hasn't sent it and according to his acct he don't have it to send. I know I need to reach out to him abt it cause I can't afford to pay his part and mine, I mean I can but I will struggle.

How should I approach this?

I'm thinking that he's no longer employed or has changed jobs again. Don't know how to find out if either has happened (for legal purposes)without involving my boys.

Any suggestions?

[Whatlee]

When our sitch first started H quit paying my car payment when I wouldn't do what he wanted, I hope that's not where we are now because I wouldn't agree to his response to my response.

We are still NC, haven't heard a peep from him since Feb. Don't know what he's doing or where and don't really worry abt it. I have given him to God and let it go. Not gonna lie, his brother has completely lost his ind, his job and prob his family, I hope H can see himself in his brother's action and has an AHA moment.

BTW H doesn't know I can access his acct....shhhh..LOL

[DnJ]

Good Morning What

I’d speak with your lawyer. She filed an emergency petition in response to H’s BS proposal of no spousal support. Let her look after this matter.

Did she (and you) get back to H’s lawyer with a counter proposal?

I realize it’s tempting to reach out to H to try to resolve this in your own. However, that will likely exacerbate things, especially if H is purposefully ignoring his fiscal responsibilities. It’s also best to stick to one path and not muddy up your L’s efforts. Let her represent you.

Hope you have a great weekend.

D

[Whatlee]

Well I guess I don't know his pay schedule like I thought I did, forgot he changed jobs and their pay schedule is different. Guess I was being dramatic...lol. H came through with his part of the insurance payment....Thank God
The less I reach out to my L the better, I like her and she has my back, I don't have the money to replace my retainer once it's gone, so unless I have to I don't bother her.

DNJ to answer your question, yes we filed a response to his BS and have heard nothing. Don't know if that's good thng or bad....it is what it is.

[DnJ]

Good Morning What

I’m glad it was just a scheduling thing.

It may serve you to remove yourself from H’s accounts. Letting go and all.

D

[Whatlee]

Hey everybody,
It's been a minute since I've been on here. Nothing new in my world, except just like someone on here said, H has changed jobs and moved again. This makes 4 times that he's moved in 2 yrs and the second job change. Oh well I hope he finds his happiness soon. My atty has filed a motion for trial to try and get me some financial support. We'll see how that turns out. Other then that everything is good with me, I'm living life.

[DnJ]

Good Morning What

Wow, four moves over the past 24 months. H is still trying to find peace it seems.

I’m glad your world is going along smoothly. Drama-free is awesome. We do get addicted, or use to all the drama, hard to let go or not look for it. Looking to peace and smooth sailing is much better.

I’m also glad you are seeking financial support. Let your attorney deal with the drama. Best of luck. Hopefully the trial, if needed (H might settle out of court), would be smooth sailing as well.

Take care,

D

[MamaG]

Stopping in to say hello. I've been thinking about you.

Financial support is long overdue for you. I'm glad you're making the move.

MG

[job]

I am not surprised at the number of moves and job changes. They stay somewhere for a bit and then it is off to another location. They are constantly looking for something that will make them feel better about themselves. Depression has a way of clouding their judgment and they don't see the world in all colors. They see it as dark grey or black when they are in the middle of a depressive episode.

I am very happy to read that you are moving ahead and seeking financial support. Now, you will need to step back a little and allow your attorney to do the heavy lifting for you.