Just an update for me. I'm still awaiting the divorce decree. Its just a matter of time now. Regardless I've made the most of my time here and have adapted well to my new life. Business is going much better than I expected, I am finding plenty of time to reignite hobbies I pursued overseas, have begun golfing regularly. I have learned how to make drone videos and have added that as a value proposition for my clients.
In terms of moving on from my ex, having the ability to view the relationship and marriage as a whole from a less filtered or tainted lens and far away, I have begun realizing my own worth and value, something I struggled with while still knee deep in the quicksand. I realized that my traits and values are a part of who I am and I will never relinquish those, not for myself and not for anyone else. I tolerated way too much abusive and disrespect in the name of fighting for my marriage, something i believed was my duty and was a noble thing for me to do, for my own sake and for the sake of my vows and the sanctity of my marriage.
I am at a place now where id like to add someone to my life, but i will not compromise my values and change who i am for someone, I find that putting in the effort to really work on yourself opens a lot of doors to the right people, i have no shortage of friends, potential romantic partners in my circle, but doing the work in myself has allowed me to be selective and only allow the right people into my orbit.
For anyone here who has made the decision to move on, just know that it does get better and you do return to your normal self. At thr end of the storm there is always a sunny day. Sometimes you just have to accept what life has given you, if life gives you lemons make lemonade. Try not to carry resentment forward with, it will show in the way people see you and the way you feel, and it will offer very little value to your life.
