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A lot of "going dark" FYI stuff here.....

DB / DR 101 - Back To The Basics!





Is it me or is this link only pointing back to the Main Index?





I get the same thing, Main Index.


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Right just found lots of textx to this girls all day sat fri all amounts. Just called him and told him to come home at lunch cos I need to end this. He said what |and I said this torment. I'm going to confront him. May blow up in face and I maybe I should hold off til counselling but Oh I'm angry


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So what I have here is

1 one day out of the blue, H claims does not love me, doesn't know why, when pushed claims it's because I moan if he forgets stuff from shops, exaggerates past arguements.
2 week be IDLY stays out til 5.30am with work mates

3. I find lots of texts to one particular work mate
4. Find viagra in is jeans
5. Texts all the time

hmmmm, think I've woken up

Not going to cause a scene


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If anyone is reading these please reply. Does LRT also mean NC, the reason I ask is it's almost impossable for that to happen for me because I have not even moved out and she has resonded a lttle from this technique! she was even suggestive about sex. I don't want to over do any thing or under do anything. She is not happy right now with some of her choices but I hold firm with LRT and it seems to be working. asking me to help but not live there I stood my ground on that. I do not contact her at all unless there is something that has to be done and not for her. but I do give a little but not so readly. I think she is starting to feel that it does suck without me. She has been on a man hunt now for months. I don't jump on every little signal from her good or bad. I see the pressure building on her though and I don't want to slip when I should make a move even a slight one with the small flirts I have over looked. Do I hold out this way for a better responce or when they do become suggjestive in the right dirrection should I lean a little more in that dirrection also? BTW I am not sure if she is sill working on OM with the way she has been frustrated I would say it's not good. Talk to me.....

Last edited by pauld2100; 03/09/09 11:42 PM.

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Read the DR book. I believe that "Going Dark" is no contact while LRT is more about how you manage contact and conduct your life.



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Great thread. Really helped


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Ditto. Why isn't this topic sticky noted?


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Handling other paperwork before petition is to be filed.
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