I may be run off the board for this but I'm going to say it anyway. There haven't been any consequences at all for your H's behavior. You have never went dark, you have half heartedly GAL. Why would he stop when he knows he can do it and you won't leave? He expects you to get upset, make threats and never follow through with them.
I am not saying file for divorce. I'm saying stop making empty threats and do something about it. Go dark, GAL, let him know what it feels like to lose you.
last email I found is dated 1:30, from our home computer this is H's email to the whore: he babd: I ws just checking ot see if you had emailed me I decided to fire one off to my belved you know I just saw an article on how incredible it is to fall in love, no mattter how old you are, Yes, I thought me and my babe sure could autheor that aritcle. Donna I sure do love y ou. Being in love with you is so wonderful I savor each and every day that I am in love with you for they are the sweetest days that I have evern known. you are the sun and I need your light and warmth to survive. Thank you for the gift of yourself it is the gereatest gift I have ever been given your devoted Dan
This really sucks, this was 3 days after the staff meeting where he told me she had asked him not to rub it in her face about ending their R...
I am about sick...I read about them being propped up on their elbows talking. I give up I'd have been better off to call it quits a year and 1/2 ago. I've been trying and trying to call the church to get ahold of the priest to talk with one of them, can't even get an answer.
She gets romance, I get nothing nothing but lies and cheating.
Does the 1:30 in your post mean January? Or does it mean 1:30 time-wise? It is of this year? Or last?
Either way, it sounds pie-in-the-sky teen-talk.
I do agree (always have) about consequences for his actions. (Now I forget who just posted that, sorry.) I just want you to calm down first BEFORE you make any decisions.
I sent the damn email, I doubt that I will hear from him. I need to find out so many things on how to separate our lives. we've been together so long I don't even know where to start. I'm looking in the phone book for attorneys, I don't even know where to go there.
Plus I should be getting some damn work done.
Some of the emails talk about them giving each other rings back like damn high school kids. I can't get it all figured out who got/gave a ring to who.
Ok, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. I know from doing lots when emotional there are times I COULD NOT have stopped what I did no matter what!
Don't just talk to one A talk to several A's and DON'T do it with your heart. I know several people told me that but I didn't listen. My A rolled over and played dead and I'm STILL PAYING!!!!!!!!!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Okay, so you sent it. Are you prepared to follow through? You absolutely HAVE to this time. What are your plans for son this afternoon and this evening? He should not be there when you confront your h. It is too traumatic for him. And the last time you were unable to follow through because your son was so upset (understandable on both parts, of course).
Set a list of priorities. Son first. Get a script ready secondly. (What are you going to say to h?) If you need some input post some things here. I will stay on until about 5pm EST to help where I can.
oh yeah on top of all the phone bills there are phone cards in the basement, I dont' know if they are valid or not. but she made reference to buying them for him at lunch in some of her emails...
When I was at home I took off my wedding ring and put it away. Big whoop, huh?
Keep trying the priest. You do need someone to talk to. If you want to talk to me let me know.
As for moving out....YOU don't....HE does. He will keep paying to maintain your home. You have to think in the short-term for this moment. Right now you need some peace and separation from the drama. Think only in terms of getting through the weekend.....for right now.
