Midlife for Dummies

[KarenA]

This is the TRUEST thing Ive ever read on these boards.

Its classic! Would you mind if I posted this on "Survivng"?

Its actually been around for quite some time, a few years at least, if I am not mistaken it even was "written" by somoene on the midlifeclub.com board, Its a classic and the first thing I printed out when I came on the board. Its good to repost for newbies as it gives a smile.

[lee31]

I am quite literally in shock over the 'script'.
I too feel relieved (if you can call it that) that I am not alone. It's just so mind blowing that this happens on such a massive scale. Oh boy am I ever dreading what lays ahead...

[HopingForMiracles]

I just came across this post, and.... I am just speechless. What is this, a black plague of the 21st century?

My STBXH thinks NO ONE understands him as HIS CASE is so unique....!!! He was just reading off of this script!!! LOL!

Thanks for posting this. I wish I could show this to him, but OF COURSE he won't take it, as I am such a b**** to even suggest that HE has the problem!!!

[TheOne]

Would it do any good to forward the original post here to the WAS? I know, probably not, but if she would just read it, it might help, not alot, but it might.

Its sad how accurate it seems, I think I got almost all of the first 4 lines, IDLY, NSHMY ect...

Well damn...

Thanks

TheOne

[bandwidow]

Boy when I read the script it was liking it was written for my WAH. I got the ILYBNILWY speech,
then all the things I needed to change,
the crumbs of being nice then being mean,
The don't touch me detachment stage
Agreeing to be open minded about US then changing his mind knowing he is happier w/o ME and all the changes I make are "too little too late".
We must be in the OW stage now. I found an envelope in his truck with a woman's name on it. I saw inside it was someone pay stub from work at a bar he played at 3 weeks ago. So I guess that is the set up to let me know he's seeing someone but still trying to hide it probably knowing I would walk by and look in his truck.

So many things are written write in this script. Of course yes, he must fullfill the fantazies of the women who WANT him because whomever will fulfill all his wishes. I, of course, after 15 yrs didn't.
Oh and the asking my DS what I say about him and telling him crap about him being unhappy for the last 3-5 yrs whenever he tells you the time frame always changes. Oh even told my DS that he couldn't stand the fighting and how I made him miserable so he had to leave.

What an eye opener. When you call them on anything they turn it around on you and cut your personality down to BUILD themselves up to the point that some of the things they say are so silly you LOL later. Mine actually told me "I'm ________(town) next hot commodity you know".
Give me a break. I should have said I needed to leave then because there wasn't enough space in the room for ME and his EGO!

Thanks for the insight...............

[brokenheart]

Midlife for Dummies

All so true.
My favorite is Chapter 11. The Art of Clinging to the edge of the mattress without falling out. My H has that one mastered. Now instead of feeling so rejected , I just laugh to myself.

[Confused_in_AZ]

Wow, I just realized this is the place where I need to be. I have heard almost 100% of every statment made in the "handbook" so true (and so funny)! Thank you!

[RedUmbrella]

CIAZ,
Do you have a link to your original thread?

TI

[Confused_in_AZ]

Not sure how to do that. It is "Detaching - and moving on with impact" over on the Seperated boards. Would appreciate any insight. Never thought about her having a MLC at 31.

[Confused_in_AZ]

Here is my thread. I figured it out this afternoon!