It's been over a year since my marriage was in the middle of failure and sadly, it's taken me this long to thank you. I always meant to, but at least in the meantime, I have often recommended your book to others!
I won't bore you with too many details, but I will say that my husband was convinced he was in love with another woman (a co-worker) and that he didn't feel that way about me anymore. He moved out, to sort things over in his mind, and to create space and distance for us. I found myself going through the self-help aisles at a local book store, looking for any possible help in order to brace myself for the impending divorce. It desperately wasn't what I wanted, but he seemed resolute that it was best. Weeks before, I would have told anyone that we had the best, most solid marriage anyone could find. His revelation to the opposite had shocked me, and sent me reeling. Anyway, I found your book, called in sick to work the next day, and read the entire DB from cover to cover, with a highlighter in hand. I found myself in need of the last resort technique, and even though that thought terrified me, I vowed to give it everything. It was Mother's Day 2004 when I decided to really work on me, and start implementing your techniques. (My husband had moved out about 3 weeks earlier.) I immediately sensed a change in him. By Memorial Day, he was considering a future with me again. By July, he was ready to break off his relationship with his co-worker who he claimed to have fallen in love with 3 months earlier. By August, he had quit his job to get away from her, broken off their relationship, moved back home, and we were ready to start again. We moved to a neighboring state to get a fresh start in October. By April (for our 10th anniversary and one year after finding out that my husband was in love with another woman), he surprised me with the most wonderful, heartfelt, genuine present. He had a minister to pay us a visit during our weekend-getaway for our anniversary. The minister was there to renew our vows in a private ceremony for just the two of us. My husband wrote his own NEW vows and read them to me. It was the most amazing moment in my life and I knew then that all the doubt and worry could disappear. Everything was better - forever!
I tell anyone that I see going through marriage problems about your book. I truly believe that it saved my marriage, and for that unspeakable gift, I can't thank you enough. I know you probably get more emails than you can read, but I would be remiss if I didn't at least attempt to thank you, Michelle. My husband and I are happier and more grounded than we've ever been in our lives. We know now how to work on issues in a positive manner, and our communication with each other is better than I ever imagined. I am so in love with my husband, my best friend, and better yet - I am certain he is with me as well.
