"A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue." Proverbs 17:27-28
WCW, you are on your way. He is warming up and I think he will continue to do so. WHat has always struck me about your situations is that it really seems like neither you or your H plays games. There was simply a span in time when he was distant from you and unreachable in a way. Now that he is moving closer, I believe that it is a permanent move. As always, you are in my prayers.
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That's just it! I should be! but I am not. I am guardedly more optimistic, I almost feel like I'm making sure I squelch the big surge, 'cause I'm afraid of the Big Fall again. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy about a good weekend, about physical touch, most definetely. Instead of the highs being higher, and the lows being lower, I'm doing an average.
Howdy, Bowtech!
Years ago, in counseling, I was told you can't shut down all your bad feelings and emotions because that shuts down all your good ones too. If I remember nothing else from those painful sessions, I remember that.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
I really understand your caution. Plus, this is gentle for him too, and seems like he's liking being in control of the dial of turning the warmth back on in the M, so you being overly happy would probably make him feel like you had insane expectations. He probably likes your toned reactions.
BUT, that said, REALLY, your news just MADE MY DAY!!!
This is TWO days now of more than he's given in a while. I understand this happened before, and was withdrawn, but take it for what it is, now. Seems like something tripped his wire, maybe he's been ready for a while...I really think so. Your self-control, warmth, readiness to be receptive to his actions and to laugh really make him feel loved. Keep it up.
Honestly, this is really big--a huge 180 for him.
I agree with your counselor, but indulge just a little and let this boost your PMA for the future...stock up on PMA!
Have fun and do you. That means do what's best for you and go at it hard with no fear
"A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue." Proverbs 17:27-28
WCW- what wonderful baby steps. yes, ejoy the moment and try adn keep up the steady postive momentum. There will probably be lots of forward and back moments still but these are def. great baby steps. it shows how true it is: what we focus on expands!
brava
Me: 36 He: 34 no kids Married: 2000 He left: July 05
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