Snodderly et al thoughts please?

[Elliecat]

Thanks BND and to everyone who has supported me. I don't know what this all means and I am scared I will get it all wrong. Can't help but recall all the horrible things he said and wonder if he will start again. It feels so good to be missed and yet I don't want to fall for it all over again. I don't think I could take being hurt again.

[Smurf_SMR]

Elliecat,

Just remember to keep expectations to a minimum, and carry on with the way you have have been doing, it has/is obviously working.

Just remember that there will be set backs, and it will be easy for your H to "Jack it in" again for a while, when things dont quite go his way.

The confidence for you both, will only return with time and constant behaviour.

I am so pleased for you.

[Truelove]

Hi Elliecat,
I am also thrilled for you. Take it day by day. Smurf gave you some good advice.

Have a lovely week-end and I hope for you that everything will go the way you want it. HUGS

[Truelove]

Hi Elliecat,
Just checking in on you. I hope everything is fine with you. HUGS

[Elliecat]

Thanks for checking up on me. Things are going well. Nice and slowly but good. I am still very nervous but he says he loves me and always has. He tried to hate me but couldnt. We are considering going to counselling together. So slowly slowly ....

[brandnewday]

TAKE A DEEP BREATH!!!

This is wonderful news and I am so thrilled for you.

Yes, take it slowly, and let him set the pace.

[ACJ]

Ellie I hope things continue in a good vein for you. Counselling does work but please make sure you find the right counsellor first it can make all the difference. From personal experience I also think you need to set ground rules before you go that both of you have to be totally honest irrespective of how hurtful things that you might hear might be. Whether you can then let these things go and build is a question that you will need to pose yourselves.
Good luck.

[Elliecat]

Hi Ali. I already have IC with a lovely lady and was wondering whether she would see us both together. He said so much last night and it was so nice to be able to hold him and have him hold my hand. He realised that he was happy but that something was missing in his life to make him completely happy and that was me. He is still living in the cottage and will be for some time but I am treating it like we are dating again. I never thought we would get to this stage at least not so soon, He said that one of the reasons he was sitting with me is because he recognised that I had changed. There was recognition of the things he has done too and how hurtful he has been. I just pray that things go onward. For those that don't know my story look for a post by Dante - that was my husband's post in the height of this. there is hope for everyone.

[Truelove]

Hi Elliecat,
I am so pleased for you that things continue to improve. I am keeping my fingers crossed that you find a good C. Keep up your good work and take it slowely. HUGS

[Truelove]

Hi Elliecat,
I am just wondering whether you are OK and how your sitch is. Take care.